(Closed) giving up your bed for guests?

posted 3 years ago in Home
  • poll: Do you give up your bed for guests?
    yes I would alway give my guest the best option regardless : (4 votes)
    3 %
    yes but only someone older/infirmed (ie parents) : (29 votes)
    22 %
    maybe if it was a special circumstance (ie they had a baby and needed private room) but not usually : (39 votes)
    29 %
    nope! sorry my bed is for me : (61 votes)
    46 %
  • Post # 16
    891 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    Nope! Our bed is like my sacred quiet place. Luckily, we never have guests. We do have a guest room (with only a twin bed, lol), and a big ass sectional that could probably sleep 4 full grown adults. If that’s not good enough, I can direct you to a nice hotel 🙂

    Post # 17
    1161 posts
    Bumble bee

    littlemisshostess:  we don’t have a guest room so we have to go for a blow up bed on the floor in the living room. We have let people use our bed before a.g. my best friend has a bad back and can’t afford to pay to visit and pay for a hotel so obviously we gave her our bed

    Post # 18
    677 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    Nope nope nope. Last time i gave my bed up for company they did more than sleep in it, which is beyond rude. My bed is my very personal space, and unless i’m in it, nobody else gets to be.

    Post # 20
    5893 posts
    Bee Keeper

    littlemisshostess:  I’d give up my bed for anyone elderly, special health concerns, heavily pregnant or new mom. Otherwise I’d make whatever other accommodations available (guest room, sofa etc) as comfortable as possible. 

    I would also be more likely to go out of my way for a planned-ahead guest than a last-minute crasher. While I would definitely prefer that someone who’s had a few drinks or is too tired to drive stay safe at our place and off the roads, I’m not going to run around putting mints on pillows for them either, you get what you get.

    Post # 21
    2109 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    We have a queen sized guest bed, a double air mattress, and a couch. Guests can take their pick between those or stay at a hotel. Under no circumstances would we ever offer up our bed. Nope nope nope nope nope.

    Post # 23
    1017 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I probably wouldn’t let anyone sleep in our bed.  If it was MY bed only I’d let my parents and grand parents sleep in it.  But it’s a shared bed with my husband and I would absolutely never let my in laws sleep in it and my husband probably feels the same about my parents lol

    Luckily one of our guest rooms has a king bed and the other has a double so there would be no reason for anyone to use our bed.

    Post # 24
    893 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Well this would never happen because no adult would ever stay the night with us.  We have a very small one-bedroom condo with one bathroom and no room for guests.  My young nieces have stayed with us for a couple nights in the past, but they can camp out on the couch/air mattress.  Grown-ups can book a hotel room.

    Before I was married, when my mom or dad would stay with me, I would always give up my bed for them and I’d take the couch.  And if my sister or a girlfriend visited we’d sleep together.  

    My dream is to have a guest bedroom with a king-size bed.  My dad and stepmom have a huge house with 2 guest rooms, each with a king-size bed and private bath.  It’s the only way to go.  All of you people saying that a full-size bed should be good enough are obviously very tiny people with very tiny husbands!  2 grown-ass adults in even a queen-sized bed is torture.

    Post # 25
    5886 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    littlemisshostess:  No, I generally don’t give up my bed.  I’m lucky to have a guest room.  Although the bed in there is definetly not as good as mine (it’s a double and it’s not as comfy as my memory foam) I think that it’s great for guests.  They’ve got a good bed and a private space, which is more than most of my friends can offer.

    If you don’t have a guest room, I think it makes sense to give up your bed in some circusmstances.  My Darling Husband used to give up his bed if his mom was visiting back in his pre-guest room days.  He didn’t love putting his mom on an airbed.  But for a friend?  No way!  They can stay in a hotel if they are picky.

    Post # 26
    287 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    We have a guestroom for that reason. Absolutely not.

    Post # 27
    944 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    We have a guest room with a queen sized bed for guests. If that’s not ok then they can go somewhere else. 

    My SIL and Brother-In-Law always give up their bed and room for my Darling Husband, me and our daughter. This is totally not necessary at for us but they insist every time. while this is of course nice, it’s not something I expect. They don’t have a guest room at the moment (the roommates are moving out soon) so then we will have guest room/bed to stay in. 

    Post # 28
    583 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    Usually I wouldnt give the bed up. We don’t have friends to sleep over very much, but they’d have the sofabed or airbed, and my parents are ok on the sofabed too. But my grandparents are coming up in a couple of weeks to see our house for the first time, and as they’re in their 80s, me and Darling Husband will probably have an airbed in the living room, parents on the sofabed, so they can have a proper mattress. (Also the cat spends nights in the kitchen and guests don’t really need to hear him whinging, haha!)

    Post # 29
    405 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2016


    Our bed is our sacred place. The only extenuating circumstance would be if a pregnant woman were in need of it. 

    His mom had us sleep in hers once, when we visited. I was SO unnerved. 

    Post # 30
    1326 posts
    Bumble bee

    We have lots of sex in that bed, so the idea of guests sleeping in there creeps me out (even if I’d obviously change the sheets before). 

    I think the only time I’d be OK with it would be if someone was staying at our house when we weren’t there for some reason… Then they could have the bed. 

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