(Closed) Giving your opinion

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1966 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Ohh geez!! I probably would’ve said “that shits ugly but I’ll wear it if you want, you know we’re gonna laugh at these pics!”. That sounds harsh but its not, if we are close enough that I’m the moh I should be able go be honest & joke about things. For instance when talking about floral budgets I tell my sister I don’t wanna go broke with my dream centerpieces but don’t want carnations in jars either. She replies, “I will kill you if you have carnations in your centerpieces.. talk about a floral disaster”. Now she’s joking but trying to be honest with me, from sisters and from my friends I expect and want honesty. 





Post # 4
2457 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@tinapage88:  I think you told her in a pretty tactful way.. but honestly, I am the person that would just go with it since it’s what she likes. I wore a long sleeve, velvet dress with a hoop skirt in JUNE as Maid/Matron of Honor for my best friend’s wedding 7 years ago. It was horrid, but she loved it, so I pretended to, too. No harm done!


Post # 6
7311 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Sounds like honesty may not be the best policy with this bride. It’s one of those things that you have to decide on a case-by-case basis. “With this decision, I think she really wants constructive criticism, so I’ll offer some. But on this, I think she is just looking for validation, so I’ll just nod my head and smile.”

I was recently a ‘maid. The bride showed me a photo of a manicure and asked me, “What do you think?” I responded, “I think that manicure would look nice on you.” Bride responded back, “Great. Then that is the manicure that you will have to have for my wedding. The blue line must be OPI… . :)” Well crap, if I already said the manicure was nice for the bride, how can I possibly tell her that I think it’s ugly because I don’t want to wear something that looks kinda hooker-ish. Which is just a really long way of saying that, as a bridesmaid, you cannot possibly win. So embrace the suck.

Post # 7
2305 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

 I hope it looks like this 😉


In all honesty, sometimes brides are crazy and no matter what you say, you can’t talk them out of how wonderful they think their ideas are. Sounds like you tried, and you just have to suck it up.

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