Post # 1
I am the Maid/Matron of Honor in an upcoming wedding. And the bride wants us to wear these big mesh-looking hats with a flower and feathers coming out of it. Honestly, it is the ugliest thign I ever saw ( I didn’t tell her that tho). I told her word for word “I will wear whatever you want us to wear, but it isn’t my style”. She got mad at me for not telling her the headthing was nice and wouldn’t talk to me for 2 weeks. But I don’t feel I should have to lie. Should I just lie? I know brides like to dress up the bridesmaids ugly sometimes but…. how can I say it is nice when I don’t think it is. I prefer something more classy. Since nothing else in her wedding is over the top weird. She is wearing a classic dress and simple regular veil.
Are you supposed to pretend you like everything? If I said I’d wear it.. doesn’t mean I have to say its nice do i? I think she will regret it when looking back at pictures… but that’s just my opinion.
Post # 3
Ohh geez!! I probably would’ve said “that shits ugly but I’ll wear it if you want, you know we’re gonna laugh at these pics!”. That sounds harsh but its not, if we are close enough that I’m the moh I should be able go be honest & joke about things. For instance when talking about floral budgets I tell my sister I don’t wanna go broke with my dream centerpieces but don’t want carnations in jars either. She replies, “I will kill you if you have carnations in your centerpieces.. talk about a floral disaster”. Now she’s joking but trying to be honest with me, from sisters and from my friends I expect and want honesty.
Post # 4
@tinapage88: I think you told her in a pretty tactful way.. but honestly, I am the person that would just go with it since it’s what she likes. I wore a long sleeve, velvet dress with a hoop skirt in JUNE as Maid/Matron of Honor for my best friend’s wedding 7 years ago. It was horrid, but she loved it, so I pretended to, too. No harm done!
Post # 5
@MsSparklyBee: I would have told my sister that as well. But my friend is overly sensitive i guess. And just gets mad if I have a different opinion than her. She takes it as a personal attack…..
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Sounds like honesty may not be the best policy with this bride. It’s one of those things that you have to decide on a case-by-case basis. “With this decision, I think she really wants constructive criticism, so I’ll offer some. But on this, I think she is just looking for validation, so I’ll just nod my head and smile.”
I was recently a ‘maid. The bride showed me a photo of a manicure and asked me, “What do you think?” I responded, “I think that manicure would look nice on you.” Bride responded back, “Great. Then that is the manicure that you will have to have for my wedding. The blue line must be OPI… . :)” Well crap, if I already said the manicure was nice for the bride, how can I possibly tell her that I think it’s ugly because I don’t want to wear something that looks kinda hooker-ish. Which is just a really long way of saying that, as a bridesmaid, you cannot possibly win. So embrace the suck.
Post # 7
I hope it looks like this 😉
In all honesty, sometimes brides are crazy and no matter what you say, you can’t talk them out of how wonderful they think their ideas are. Sounds like you tried, and you just have to suck it up.