(Closed) Glad I Did/Wish I Had

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Not married yet! But I love your list!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

What an awesome thread!  Your lists are great. Can’t wait to see more lessons from the Hive!

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

I love your advice – especially the part about not leaving so much until the end. Sometimes I feel silly because I’m starting on planning and projects so early, but you reminded me that once I get closer I will be so glad for all of the stuff I already have done!

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

thanks for being so honest.  it sounds like it was a wonderful day and a lovely wedding. could you tell us more about the details you mentioned that your guests appreciated that made the wedding different and special?

i’d love to hear from other newlyweds!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Glad I:

Stayed with my parents and brother the night before the wedding. After the rehearsal dinner, my parents had some friends back at the house they were renting, and my brother & I went out to the local bar with the “young crowd.” My brother & I arrived home about midnight, and my parents were up. The four of us sat around the kitchen and dunked oreos in milk and JUST TALKED. It was so wonderful & one of my favorite memories of the weekend.

Glad I:

Listened to my mom when she told me before my big day that I probably wouldn’t love my hair. I’m picky with my hair, and although I had a trial run, my mom knows me best. The day of the wedding, I DIDN’T love my hair. I took one look in the mirror, and instead of freaking out about it, I actually laughed and said “Wow, my mom was right!” Other people loved my hair, I didn’t, but it was ok.

Wish I:

Had gotten ready earlier. My hair stylist was super slow (seriously 1 hr + for my bridesmaids, over an hour and a half for me) and my make up artist was very fast. So I tried to balance them out, and ended up delaying my process a bit. I wish I had gotten ready earlier- my hair would have withstood the style for another hour or so & I would have had more time for pictures with my bridesmaids.

Wish I:

Had realized that my vendors’ personalities were just as important as their talent. My two favorite vendors were my videographer & my makeup artist. My videographer just had this happy, relaxed feeling about him. He recorded everything, but was never interfering. It’s like he was on the sidelines, but managed to capture all of the inside details. And my makeup artist was as sweet as could be. I had confirmed everything the week before, but was supposed to touch base with her the day before the wedding. I got busy and forgot. Instead of leaving me a feisty or awkward message, she called and just said “Hi, I just wanted to give you the peace of mind that I will be there first thing tomorrow morning! Can’t wait!” It was sweet.

My hairstylist, on the other hand, was so jumpy and nervous. She was sort of like a lose cannon. I noticed it a bit during my trial, but i just thought she would calm down. Instead, she showed up late on my wedding day, making excuses as to how she got lost (saying she didn’t believe the sign when it said to veer left… ummmm…), and just being very nervous and uptight. I was extremely calm on my wedding day, but I didn’t like her nervous energy.

And my DJ came across a little pompous/cheesy during our meetings, and I didn’t trust my gut. Instead, I hired him, and that cheesiness and pompousness came out during my wedding!

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

This is a geat post, but I’m not married for 2 months.

As an almost married bride-to-be … I wish I would have:

Had the R.S.V.P. cards sent to mine and fiances place instead of being talked into doing it the proper way … send to parents house, I have no control over it. It’s driving me crazy.

 

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2018 - Outside a rustic b&b in Big Bear Lake

Wow our lists are almost identical… seriously- minus a few things that we did differently- all of your glad I did’s are identical to mine… interesting ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Thanks for your insight! It’s great to get this sort of feedback. I’m 2 months away so some decisions can’t be changed but I can certainly heed some of your good advice — especially spending lots of time with the playlist and creating as many socializing opportunities as we can.

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2009

My wedding is still two months out, but I am definitely bookmarking your list.  Thanks for the tips!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

This is a great post. Keep it coming I am taking notes!

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

Glad I:

Said traditional vows. I am quite creative and into writing, and part of me wanted the personalization of writing my own vows. But once I identified with the rich history of the traditional vows….it was so right. I will have them memorized forever, and will be seeing them in movies, TV, other weddings. I love being connected to history in that way.

Trusted my vendors. I hired vendors with great reputations, portfolios, and personalities. I told them a bit of what I wanted and then trusted them to make it look good. My advice is to expect that whatever you see in the vendor’s portfolio and whatever you have heard about them is just the experience you will get. Don’t expect them to change (or change well) for you. So if a photographer doesn’t have the kind shots you want, don’t hire them (versus asking them to do something that’s out of their repertoire—you will only be disappointed).

Delegated like whoa. I did not micromanage my vendors. My florists created the flower arrangements on their own (I suggested a color scheme and some general flower types, they took it from there). Also, whenever anyone volunteered to help out with a project, I said yes. Do not fall prey to the “I must do it myself” mentality! You will go crazy!

 

Wish I had:

Tried on more dresses. I bought my dress quite early on from a salon thats came recommended to me. On the plus side, I had a good experience with the salon, but I should have tried on more dresses. I wish I had had something funkier.

Mingled more with my guests at the reception. I barely saw my friends at my reception because I was so entranced by my wonderful groom. Don’t neglect the guests!

Left for the honeymoon a day later instead of immediately. We took a cruise for our honeymoon so there was little we could do (cruises depart on Sundays), but ideally I wish I had been able to stay in town one more day and see more of my guests before they departed. It also would have been nice to sleep in the day after the wedding!

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