(Closed) GM asked if brother is invited (we're not close with him)…small wedding

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
9142 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

You gave the apropriate response.  The Groomsmen may still be unhappy with it but anybody he asks will tell him that you are in the right on this issue.  Give him time to digest and respond.  Guys don’t always respond back immediately so I wouldn’t necessarily think he was mad.

Post # 4
2605 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@HeLovesDogs:  Your response was perfect.  The Groomsmen was very rude to even ask so, I wouldn’t worry too much about if he’s angry or not.    

I’m puzzled why he cares if his younger brother is invited to your wedding if the brother isn’t part of your circle of friends?  have you just known the both of them for a long time?  Not that it matters – you still don’t owe him an invitation – just curious about the GM’s reasoning here.

Is the Groomsmen bringing a spouse or SO?  Again, this is irrelevant – just curious.

Post # 6
2059 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Perfect response! Guys, especially if they are single, are very clueless about weddings. And guys tend to respond when they are upset, not sulk and give the silent treatment.  I think you may be overthinking – don’t worry about it!

Post # 7
739 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@HeLovesDogs:  Your reply was great. Regardless of whether he is mad or just a guy and doesn’t text much, you did the right thing. Unfortunately there had to be a line drawn, you can’t invite everyone and their brother (literally!) to your wedding. Is he a close friend to your FI? Maybe you could have him investigate to see if the Groomsmen is mad at you, without making it obvious. I really wouldn’t worry about it. 

Post # 8
2605 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@HeLovesDogs:  Given all that, I think he was probably just curious and not at all upset.  I’m sure he didn’t mean to be rude – some people are just clueless as to how awkward it is to answer those kind of questions. 

Post # 9
495 posts
Helper bee

He was probably asking because he looked kind of foolish asking his brother if he was invited. If he gets annoyed, it’s probably because he doesn’t want to own up to his mistake.


You are totally fine not inviting groomsmen’s families!

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