(Closed) GM Doesn't Understand No Kids at Wedding.

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1880 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think you just have to keep reiterating what you’ve said. It’s very bizarre that they’re trying to bring a kid who isn’t even theirs to a child-free wedding! Like, when people want to bring their own kids, I get where they’re coming from… but his girlfriend’s niece? wtf??

Post # 4
45748 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You’ve already given im a clear answer. If he asks again, I would just say “I’m sorry, That’s not possible”.

HIM- But she’s so cute, she would look so good in the picures

YOU -I’m sorry,that’s not possible

HIM- but we already told her she could come

YOU- I’m sorry, that’s not possible

HIM- But…

YOU- I’m sorry, it is not possible to allow her to attend. Is there anything else you would like to discuss?

You do not owe him any more explanations or discussions.

Post # 5
2204 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@distracts:  +1

So weird. Just keep holding your ground. People are so annoying.

Post # 6
1806 posts
Buzzing bee

Hold your ground and tell him, “GM, MY nephews aren’t invited to the wedding so your girlfriend’s niece certainly won’t be the exception.  This topic is closed.”

Post # 7
424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Can you say for safety reasons children are not permitted at the winery?  When I was venue shopping we came across a winery that would not allow anyone under the age of 18.  You might be lying, but it’d close the conversation very quickly.

Post # 8
2832 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

@somerrae:  “Look, I understand that you’d like it if she could come, but the answer is no and that’s not going to change. We are NOT discussing this again.”

Post # 9
11236 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

He wants to invite his girlfriend’s niece? Like, not even his girlfriend’s child? Wtf? 

I agree with @julies1949, just keep repeating the same thing over and over again.

Post # 10
917 posts
Busy bee

I agree with all the other bees that a). just keep saying NO. And b) that it’s weird that they want to bring a child that isn’t theirs?! Have you asked him why he wants his gf’s niece to come? Did they agree to babysit her that night without realising the conflict and are now trying to solve it by forcing it on to your wedding?

Post # 11
1770 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1997

@somerrae:  sounds very odd. What type of relationship does he have w his gf’s niece?  be prepared, bet he shows upwith her anyway. Had it happen to me. Have a plan if this happens.

Post # 12
354 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Wow that’s a bit odd….especially as it isn’t even his child! Did he say *why* he was so desperate for her to come? As other posters have said, just say no and close the subject. It’s inappropriate anyway to ask for extra people to come but this is particularly odd!! 

Post # 13
720 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I don’t get why people do this – not just at weddings, in general. We’re not having kids at our wedding either (except our nephew, who will be about 6 weeks – it’s not like he’s going to take up a seat and/or plate), and if people are upset about it, tough noogies.

Not every event is child-friendly, and people certainly have the right to host an adults-only event. I LOVE children, but I don’t always love them at things like weddings, especially if the parents aren’t looking after them.

“No, your girlfriend’s niece can’t come. That’s our final answer, so you don’t need to keep bringing it up. The answer will still be no.”

If the niece does come (omg – I hope they wouldn’t do that) I guess you’ll have to deal with it however you’re comfortable/able. I wish you good luck! 🙂

Post # 14
6 posts
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think its weird that they are pushing the issue…especially since it isn’t their kid haha.  Just keep telling him what you’ve been telling him.  You’re right, you can’t make one exception when everyone else understood. 

Post # 19
128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@somerrae:  update?  Did he end up bringing the kid?

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