Post # 1
I am 22 weeks pregnant and my fiance and I are not exactly wealthy. We’re comfortable but by no means can we afford a nice wedding right away. Our baby is due in November and he was telling me it’d be a good idea to go ahead to the courthouse before January so that we could get a higher tax return so that we could get another car and a bigger house when our lease is up in March. I’ve always dreamed of a beautiful wedding since I was little but I know that I could be waiting for a while. I also wanted to go back to school and I’ve always been told it is easier to get grants when you’re single, but I also know now with a baby we need that extra car and room. It just doesn’t sound romantic at all to me, am I missing something??
Post # 3
Here are some courthouse photos from a poster on WB. I think these look so sweet! I bet you could get a nice room at a B&B and make it romantic just the two of you.
Or if you’re into something outdoors and not in a city hall/courthouse, look at this sweet and simple wedding/elopement in a park. You just need a JOP that will marry you and ask if they travel.
So just a few visual so you can see it *can* be romantic, but maybe not what you were looking for?
Post # 4
@sienna76: Wow thank you, she made the courthouse wedding look more romantic than I could imagine.
Post # 5
We had a courthouse ceremony, and we’ve never regretted it. Like sienna76 mentioned, you can still get some beautiful pictures. We actually waited until several months later to take pictures because it was so hot that day. Clearly, none of our methods were traditional. 🙂
As far as grants for school, it varies based on your situation. It’s easier for some people to get grants as a single student, but it was the opposite for me. My parents make good money, and you have to count that until you are 24 or married. They don’t contribute to my education at all, but their money was making me ineligible. DH and I make a lot less than they do, so I became eligible for much more once we got married. I suggest you look closely at your situation, research, and speak with a financial aid advisor.
Personally, I feel that marriage is an emotional and practical decision (or at least should be). DH and I were together for four years and lived together for two before getting married, and, TBH, I would have been content to continue on that path forever if it hadn’t made logical sense to get married. It came to a point that it did, so we took that next step. We’re no more or less committed to each other than we were before that (because we already knew we wanted to spend our lives together). It sounds like you and your SO may have reached a similar point, but only you know if it’s right to take the next step in your relationship.
Also, if you ever do regret not having a big wedding, you can always do a big vow renewal. We actually plan on that. We still don’t want a big ceremony, but we’re planning on having a grand elopement-style vow renewal a few years down the road.
Post # 6
My FI and I are off to the courthouse in just over a month because we need to get him a visa. Next year we’re having our wedding – until then no calling eachother husband and wife, no wedding rings and no big white dress. As far as the guests are concerned we’ll be getting married in the church next year. So…. if it’s practicality and paperwork why not just sign the papers and plan a wedding when you do have the means to do so? It takes a bit of getting used to (and a couple of days of sulking in my case, may as well be honest) but it’s a good solution for a situation that calls for a practical approach.