(Closed) Go dress hunting when I know I can’t buy yet?

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Nope that’s not weird at all!! I think it’s good you do a little research before commiting to a dress. You won’t waste their time because it’s their job, and if they do their job right, they ‘win’ a buying customer in the near future 😉

Post # 4
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Honey bee

Absolutely. If anything knowing you can soon, but not now will be good so you dont rush into a decision. If you do find one you love you maybe be able to find it or something similar used and chepaer anyway! And you will have time to search online when your loans come in.

Post # 5
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285 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I have two questions first. 1. Do you know what your dress budget is? 2. Is your wedding date in fact June 2013? I don’t think that shopping before you’re ready to buy is a problem at all. When I found my dress and absolutely knew I wanted it, I still took two days to sleep on it, and the consultants didn’t think it was weird that I didn’t walk out with a dress. But if you don’t even know your budget, shopping is pretty pointless. You really need to know your price point before you start trying on dresses, or you may very well find one you just can’t afford. It’s better to know the absolute max you can spend and then only look at dresses that do not exceed that price.

As far as question #2, if you really are getting married in two years, I would definitely say hold off for a bit. A lot can happen in two years: dress styles and trends can change, your taste can change, your venue and the type of wedding you’re having can change, your size can change, etc. You don’t want to choose a dress too early only to regret it later. I know it’s really exciting to think about all your dress possibilities right now, but if you can hold off, I would because I think you’ll be happy you did in the long run. It’s totally OK to look now, and I think a few “for fun” shopping trips may not be out of line (though I do think consultants can get anxious with those appointments–they’re serious about getting you your dream dress). But if you have two years, don’t stress too much about serious dress shopping for a little bit longer. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@jumpthegun: It sounds like you’re in great shape! Be sure to stick to your general budget, especially is you’re going to have two dresses–you definitely don’t want to go over. 🙂 And I think picking a dress early isn’t a problem at all if you do really know what you like, and it’s especially not a problem if you choose something timeless. I like to think that my dress will still look amazing in 50 years, and I know that the silhouette definitely will; it’s very classic. And I’m like you: I know what I like, and my style is pretty consistent, and I know I would have still chosen the same dress if I got married in ten years. 

I also just wanted to add that it’s totally possible to shop while in school. I did! It took me exactly one week and three dress shopping trips to purchase my dress, and that’s it! Being in school actually made it easier for me, I think, because my schedule was more flexible. 

As for how much time you need, I think it varies store to store. I purchased my dress from Priscilla of Boston (I highly recommend them–beautiful gowns and excellent customer service!), and they suggest around 5 months to order the dress and 1 month for alterations (I think). Of course, that’s an overestimate. My dress arrived in just over 3 months, which is perfect because I have over 2 months for all alterations. But if you buy something before the school year starts, you should be in GREAT shape for a 2013 wedding! 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think going early to check out what you like is a great idea as long as you have an idea of your budget.

As for how long you actually need, it depends on a few things. I got everything done with my dress in about 4 months from first walking in a store to have a completed dress hanging in my closet, but then I bought at David’s Bridal and got a dress that wasn’t particularly complicated. At the fancier salons and with more expensive and more complex dresses or with gowns that need a lot of alterations done I’d say a safe bet is 9-12 months.

Just don’t commit to early. What you don’t want to have happen is to fall in love with a “one time only” type of dress on your first trip, feel like you have to buy it, and then a year and a half later be completely unsure about it.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

If you’re just going in to see what styles look good on you, then I see no problem with it at all!  I say go for it!

Post # 12
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285 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@jumpthegun: Haha, you’re exactly right about dress shopping during school! I know that I certainly can’t work nonstop, so dress shopping turned out to be a great “break” from studying! I know it’s certainly a lot more fun than school. 🙂 

Post # 13
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Helper bee

Oh wow, we’re almost date twins! Are you also getting really disheartened by the loooooong wait? I have started trying on dresses and accidentally found one I really really love. And yes, you probably guessed it, it’s way out of budget. However, look on the bright side, with the amount of time left we have sample sales, second hand, resales  and ebay at our disposal with no worries about deadlines. Definitely start shopping, especially now that you’re not feeling the pressure to buy it’s a great time to figure out exactely what you want and wait for that perfect dress to come along! Good luck, let me know how it goes!

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