(Closed) Go Fund Us?? Anybody else asked for help?

posted 3 years ago in Elopement
Post # 31
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

Nvm..

Post # 32
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

bohosioux :  sorry about the tragic circumstances… maybe it’s better asking for a private loan? From a parent or an uncle or something instead of telling the whole world you are in dire need for money and asking them to fund your wedding.

Eta, make the gofundme for your medical expences. People respond better to those. 

Post # 33
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Newbee

I’m sorry to hear about your circumstances and I hope things turn around for you soon. Unfortunately, like many PP’s, I don’t believe this is okay. In my opinion, I think asking people to fund your wedding/rings through a gofundme page is acting really entitled and I think it will make a lot of people uncomfortable. Gofundme pages should be for people who are truly in need and really don’t know where else to turn (recently, a $5000 insulin pump was stolen from a friend’s son and a gofundme page was started for them to get a new one, these kind of instances I believe are acceptable). I think this is a conversation to have with close family, asking even for a loan from them so you can afford what you need and then pay them back when you and Fiance are in a better place financially. Just my opinion. Good luck with everything.

Post # 34
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Helper bee

I understand why you made that decision, but it is in poor taste.

However, if I were you, I would have simply started more of a type of honeyfund for an elopement. Or even maybe sending out a pre-elopement announcement to friends and family, asking to send donations directly to your paypal in lieu of wedding gifts. 

Post # 35
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

No. Sorry. You can afford to get married you just need to do it with what you have or wait a little longer. I even think asking family for a loan as a pp mentioned is tacky since you are eloping (as a fellow eloper I can tell you some feelings get hurt). I am sorry for your circumstances but a wedding is not a charity.

 

Post # 36
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

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Post # 37
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

Yeah, no, I would be extremely side eying someone gofunding a wedding and especially gofunding a ring. 

Getting married takes only a trip to the courthouse with your license. Everything else is extra and I wouldn’t be happy to ask people to pay for a wedding/ring.

You can find rings that cost under 20 dollars to stand in until you can save for a more expensive one. If a wedding with all the extra matters, you can also hold off and save. 

ETA: while you state you got a deal with a riverfront cafe venue, I’m assuming it still costs way more than alternatives you could save with. Even a backyard wedding, party rental hall, or public park could cut down your budget. The cupcakes from your favorite bakery could have been cut down for a sheetcake or cupcakes from sam’s club. Low cost weddings aren’t hard but it takes knowing what you can afford and what you can’t. 

Post # 38
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK

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I saw you were going to get married 4 years ago when you were pregnant with your 3rd(?) child but put it off and you’ve had 4th child since. If the money you need is for medical care for them or for you or your Fiance then start a Go Fund Me for that and wait a while to save the money to have the wedding you want. 

Post # 39
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

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Post # 40
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Hi ladies, this thread is receiving a lot of flags and I feel has run it’s course so I’m going to close it for review. 

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