(Closed) Goals we should meet before TTC?

posted 4 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

If you’re comfortable renting now, I don’t see the rush to buy.  Would that even be realistic in a few months?  Would you delay TTC for a few years to finish your bachelors?   I don’t see how much can be done within a few months prior to TTC other than something like saving a crap load of money and taking a last pre TTC big vacation type thing.  Other things you list sound more like a long term going to TTC in a few years type goal. 

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I don’t think there is anything wrong with renting when you have a baby, BUT I do think you should do so recignizing that adding a baby will delay when you would be able to buy. Babies are expensive, and then add in daycare etc….it will be harder to save. Not impossible, but not as easy as it is now. So it’s up to you to weigh what that means in terms of saving etc.

In terms of new jobs…I would caution to be careful just in terms of benefits. If your Darling Husband wants a new job, make sure you guys are covered for pregnancy as well as time off…

Our personal goal was to own a house before TTC, but that doesn’t mean it’s for everyone. My honest opinion would be that you guys should enjoy being married for awhile, even a few months, before TTC, but that’s just my opinion. I think it’s easy to get caught up in the excitement of having a baby and forget that once you get pregnant it won’t be just the two of you for a VERY long time. You’ll never get back that “newly married, just us” time.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

you are ready when you are ready.  i got married at 32, i owned my home already and had a graduate degree. i traveled some but definately wanted to travel more.  but i was ready for a child and so was Darling Husband,  so we started TTCing right away (although it took us two years with intervention, and we are now 30+/- days away from meeting our little one).

but if you are comfortable where you are in life and babies are the next step, there is no set goal list to accomplish. 

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

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herrera2016:  If you feel the itch to buy a home before baby comes, and can afford to do so, go for it!  If it makes more sense to rent and save up more (assuming you can save more while renting) before commiting to a house, that’s ok too.  If you think buying is better in the long run, even if it’s a starter home to build equity, and you’ll still have a comfortable amount of savings left over, then maybe that’s better!  It’s so different for each individual.  If you feel ready to TTC and the baby is the priority, I don’t the point of looking for a list of “goals” (aside from being financially ready) to check off prior to TTC… jsut go for it!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Personally I always knew I wanted to finish my uni degree and get a stable job before I’d be comfortable having kids. Now that those details are out of the way, we made a list of things we’d like to do before we ttc and besides buying a house & a car, the rest is fairly simple, and kind of trivial. 

We’ve both done a lot of travelling, apart and together, and lived abroad, so we both feel quite more stable at home than we did in our early twenties (I’m in my late twenties now), so those personal goals have already been achieved,  and besides, we intend to continue travelling with or without a kid.

Our friends who have kids told us to take advantage of restaurants and patios before we have them, so that’s on our to-do-more-of list now. We are watching the shows we wanna watch, and pursuing hobbies as much as we can now…And then I have a personal goal of managing my anxiety better. 

I don’t think everyone needs a list, but both SO and I have “excel spreadsheet” tendencies, so we enjoyed creating ours.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

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herrera2016:  yea honestly, I don’t think anyone knows what they’re doing! We will definitely take some basic parenting classes, along with an extensive CPR course before we have our kid haha, at least for the peace of mind! 

I think once you have your kid, you won’t wanna “unknow” him or wish you had more time to reflect on how to make yourself a better human being. I feel like we spend our lives constantly evolving and learning, so if we get too caught up in lists and details, we would always just be waiting for the right time. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee

Our goal was to both have our degrees wrapped up. We started TTC about 2 mos before DH’s graduation. That said, it took us nearly 3 years to conceive so just becasue you start trying doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll get pregnant right off the bat.

Post # 11
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Busy bee

1. Lose 25 lbs

2. Finish building our house (to be done in Sept. 2016)

3. Go to Thailand

Post # 12
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Helper bee

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herrera2016: these were our goals:

1. Get married

2. Sell apartment & buy a 3 bed house

That’s it! Still took about 6 years to get to that point!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015 - Carmen\'s Lakeview

1. Pay off 4 loans (one we just officially paid off today!! and the other 3 will have paid off by December, if all goes well)

2. I get a new job with better hours (I currently work 12-9pm every day. I don’t want to be a “weekend mommy” and only get to see my kid only on weekends, especially once they reach school age.)

3. Save money to offset baby costs as well as decreased income during a maternity leave.

If all goes well, we hope to TTC this fall…pending the new job, of course. Although Darling Husband keeps talking about it more so fingers crossed we can start sooner (I’ve got major baby fever). 

Post # 14
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Honey bee

Hmmm…it’s such a personal thing that you both should discuss and reflect on what you want your life to be life once you have children. Think about what you want to do more of now and what you are ok with trying to do afterward.

We are going to start TTC in January/February 2017. Personally, our goals are related to finances, travel and career goals:

  • We want to eliminate all student loan debt before TTC (will by Nov. 2016)
  • I want to finish my master’s degree before a child is born (will by May 2017)
  • I want to settle into my new career position for at least 2 years before a child is born (I will be 2 years in by July 2017)
  • Darling Husband wanted to go to Europe (we went Dec 2015) and do one more cruise (going Sept. 2016)
  • We want 6 months e-fund saved (done)
  • We want to have $5,000 in a baby fund for OOP Max and other expenses (done)

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