- 5 years ago
I am not sure about if all of you are familiar with the term god mother, or god father, and god sons and god daugthers for that matter. But at least in the Christian churches in Scandinavia, a child can get god mothers and/or god fathers when baptized, and the child becomes their god children.
Way back god parents were a security for the child and for the parents, since if the parents died when the child was little, the god parents would get custody of the child and take care of him or her until the child grew up. Of course it doesn’t work this way anymore, but as a modern god parent you are suppsed to be a supportive grown up who is present and supportive in the childs life. This of course, partly, means showering the sweet little baby with gifts whenever you get the chance! 🙂
Now, I am the god mother of my dearest friends child, he is the most adorable little baby and he lights up my world whenever I get to meet him (they live on the other side of the country, so not very often 🙁 ), Anyway, I love to buy him gifts, and I had planned on gifting him alot! Since that’s what my god mother and father always did, and I was the happiest little girl ever whenever when came to visit and I had looaaaads of presents to open! It was seriously great. My god mother collected happy meal toys for me, since we didn’t have a mc donalds where I lived, and I collected them for yeaaars, and they were sooo awesome! Lol.
But heres the “problem”, my friend told me a while ago that they are expecting another baby!!! This is of course wonderful news and I am so so so so happy! But, now I wonder, will it be evil if I shower him with gifts and not his baby brother/sister? Of course I would give the new child something too everytime we meet them, I could never be so cruel and leave a child without presents while his/her brother gets presents! But do I have to give them equally much? Or should gifting that baby be his/her godmothers/fathers duty, and one or two presents from me is enough even though the brother gets more? I am a student at the moment, and will be for at least for the nearest 5 years to come, so I don’t have a unlimited budget, and it will certainly break if I need to buy both kids 100 presents.
And yes I know I don’t “need” to, but my plan was to spoil him rotten!
So, to get to my point, can I buy my god son a ton of gifts just because he is MY god son and I want him to see how much I apprechiate the fact that he is, and so that he understands that I am HIS god mother, not just a lady that comes to their house and gives all the kids plenty of gifts ( I don’t even know if it will stop at two, they might have 5 more…?) And also of course gift the newbie a little something too, but not as much, just so he/she doesn’t feel left out?
Or should I just gift them equally many gifts each every time I see them, so that the little one doesn’t feel left out at all?
What does all you other god mothers on here do? How did your god parents do it if you had siblings? Mine never had that problem since I was a only child!