(Closed) GOD MOTHERS! Do you buy equally much presents to your god child's siblings?

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

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luckybum :  I have two siblings & we each have a different set of godparents. My sister’s godparents got her a lot more gifts than my brother or myself ever got from our godparents. We always understood though because it was usually for her birthday or Christmas. None of us randomly get presents just for being a godchild haha.

Post # 3
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Sugar bee

I always buy equally for the very little ones. They just don’t understand the complexities of all of that until they’re a bit older (say 4th-5th grade – middle school). What’s one more sweet little angel to spoil rotten? Their faces just light up!!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

My god daughter is an only child and DH is god father to both siblings for his. So there is no partiality

BUT- Growing up, my god mother would send me a $5 check for small holidays like Valentine’s Day, St. Patrick’s Day, Thanksgiving, etc.. and not one to my brothers. It was never a big deal, and no jealousy. It was cash, which isn’t fun for kids, and by the time cash became a desireable gift, everyone was old enough to understand the extra gift was because it was something my god mother chose to do. 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

My sisters and I all have different god parents. None of us have ever received a gift from the others’ god parents. We weren’t raised to expect a gift for ourselves just because another sister received something. 

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper

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luckybum :  I always give a bigger present to my god child. I give a smaller and less expensive present to the sibling. For example, this Christmas, I plan to buy 2 dress shirts for my god son and I plan to make a small bag of Christmas goody treats for his sister which I will also give to my friends’ children.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I gift them all the same but I put away money to my god children in a separate savings account to give them when they are 16-18

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I cannot fathom gifting more or better things to my godchildren over their siblings. It just sound mean to me as kids don’t understand that concept. I think you can get away with a more expensive gift on birthdays, but to continually shower your god child with gifts and not their siblings? Definitely not ok in my book. My theory is if you are close enough to the family to be the godparent to even one of their kids, you should be close enough that you care equally about all of their kids.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

I personally don’t like the thought of giving less (or nothing) to a godchild’s siblings. I think all brothers and sisters should be treated equally, even by those outside of the family. I completely agree that if you’re a godparent then you’re clearly quite close to your godchild’s whole family, and so you should treat their children all the same.

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

I agree with PPs/your plan.. 

When the new one is super little–s/he won’t be able to be jealous, so you can be as uneven as you want.  Seriously.  “Hi, I got you half a peach, and you a remote controlled set of monster cars”  Both will be thrilled.

Once the new one is old enough to rank their toys against their siblings then sure, you might need to cut back a bit and get them both less expensive gifts and basically split your budget.

You’ll feel it out–you have lots of time! ๐Ÿ˜›

Post # 12
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Busy bee

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luckybum :  Hm. Well I am the old fashioned God mother where I have a little boy entrusted to me and my fiancée in his parents’ will and all of his siblings that come will be too. So I am not exactly in the same situation but….

I don’t think I would spoil both kids, as the other child will have his own God parents that will more than likely also spoil him. Unless you get to be both then yes spoil. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

You can gift them each some thing little at Christmas. But make a point of when your god son is a little older of perhaps taking him out for special treats, godmother and god son special moments.

Perhaps you could start a savings account for him, that you can put money in for his future and gift him that when he is older?

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

I gift the same because I am also closely related to my godson, and therefore his siblings too… It gets expensive!

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