Post # 1
We are planning a baptism for our newborn son. After speaking with our church, we’re not sure how to proceed, being that our Godparents don’t meet the requirements. Basically my sister and brother in law are religious and members of a church, but they don’t attend regularly. They are required to get a written statement from their church, stating they are active members.
Our main priority is to baptism our son and it’s frustrating that we can’t do that based on the Godparents church attendance. I know that they will be great Godparents and I couldn’t think of anyone else I would want for that role. However, I can’t control if they go to church regularly (my husband and I attend every weekend) and don’t like that the church won’t baptism my son based on that condition.
What are the requirements for Godparents in your church? Thanks!
Post # 2
Cupid268: that’s insane! How do the qualify ‘active members’? Fiance and I are Catholic and do not live together, so we don’t have donation envelopes and give cash, and I haven’t been a communion minister since highschool. There wouldn’t be a record of our attendance, but we go every weekend. I am a godparent to one of my cousins (he is Lutheran), and I didn’t even sign a statement or anything. My brother’s godparents are close family friends. The wife is Catholic and they attend church so my parents assumed that the husband was as well. Turns out he isn’t, but no one caught that until afterwards. I find it hard to believe that they got away with that because the Catholic church is usually quite strict about that sort of thing. But I guess the rules are not closely followed in my area?
Post # 3
One of our local churches also requires either a church wedding for a married couple, or a single person with no cohabitation, on top of being active members. It’s hard, because most of our religious friends still didn’t have church weddings. When it comes time for baptism, it’s going to be rough!
Post # 4
I’d see if their church will write the letter even if they don’t attend very regularly. I know that the requirements for my church are that a member must attend and contribute at least once each year to maintain active member status. But we often keep people as members if they want us to even if they haven’t attended in over a year. So I’d just have your sister and Brother-In-Law ask if their church will write the letter.
For my church, we’re pretty relaxed about godparents. Basically you just have to agree to provide spiritual guidance to the child. Maybe you have to be baptised, but I’m not even sure about that.
My husband and I are godparents for my best friend’s son and we had to send them information about the Catholic church in which my husband was baptised and confirmed, but they were okay with me not being Catholic, since he was (though he is now a member of my church, but we just didn’t mention that).
Post # 5
I was not baptized until I was 12 because my parents were not considered active members of the catholic church, even though they both attended catholic schools and went to church 6 days a week for most of their lives. That kind of thing really annoys me. Needless to say I was baptized at a Lutheran church and I don’t recall them having any sort of restrictions on the god parents.
Post # 6
I am Lutheran, and I just became a godparent to my cousin’s three children. Her sister was also a co-godparent with me. Of all the baptisms I witnessed over the years in the church, a LOT of the godparents were not members of our church. I have no idea if they were members anywhere! The important thing is to get the child baptized. It is a right we all have. Regular attendance is nice, though, since the godparents are the ones who are responsible for the child’s religious upbringing if anything should happen to the parents.
Post # 7
have them talk to a local church – many times all they need to do in order to get this letter is make a donation to the church to show that they are ‘members’
some churches are more strict and require married couples to be married in the church, letter from parish and a month of “sunday school” like classes…. some are less and don’t ask a lot of questions (or just make the baby’s parents go to the classes/give donation)