Post # 1
Hi Bees ! I am in desperate need of your opinions….
My fiancee and I have been together almost 9 years now – we have a house, vehicle, kids, dog, and pretty much every other thing that we would probably get for a wedding gift if we hadn’t already been together this long. I found a site called “gofundme” and you can set up your own page for people to give donations – and I was thinking that instead of having a wedding registry or gifts at the reception, we could set up one of these pages and let people donate money to our honeymoon fund….
The problem – I dont know how to tell people and spread the word without sounding selfish, even though my intentions are not selfish at all :/
Post # 3
Posted from another thread I commented on: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/we-dont-need-giftshow-do-i-tell-everyone-that-politely
You will find a ton of opinions on this on the Bee. Generally, it is frowned upon to ask for money or specific gifts (e.g. Honeymoon fund) with the exception of certain cultures where it is expected.
Most will advise putting in the link of your wedding website on the information card in your invitation and on the site, put your honeymoon fund information (but no, “we love money” type verbiage). Other than that, you may rely on word-of-mouth to spread the word.
I still would encourage a small registry in the event that 1) you have a shower thrown in your honor or 2) someone just doesn’t want to give a cash gift. (In my experience, people who are financially strapped seem to prefer giving a tangible inexpensive item than tucking $20 into an envelope. Also in my experience, people who are more like acquaitances, such as work colleagues, tend to prefer giving gifts rather than cash as well, even in the form of a honeymoon fund.)
FWIW, I would like to point out that this is not “donating” to your honeymoon. You are not a charity or a political organization. Rather, your guests are still giving your a gift – a gift of cash or experience. There are specific honeymoon registries available e.g. http://www.honeyfund.com/.
Post # 4
thanks ~ I have never heard of honeyfund.com so I will check that out instead…. and I realize that it’s not donating, but I didn’t know how else to explain it :S
Post # 5
I didn’t do a honeymoon registry, so I don’t know if any of these are good. We had one couple that did the Honeyfund.
And here is information from CNN regarding honeymoon registries. One BIG thing to watch out for would be fees. Some of these sites can take a sizeable chunk from what your guests are gifting!
Our friend that did the Honeyfund set it up in a way that we can mark off specific activities but we would either mail them the check or hand it to them in person, thus avoiding fees.
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Post # 7
thanks for your suggestions everyone ~ not sure which I am going to use yet, but am checking into all of them now 🙂