Going 50% over budget….

posted 2 years ago in Money
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

I was going to ask whether you’re going over budget because you had an unreasonably low budget to start (and had essentially low-balled what you could have a wedding for). 7k seems pretty low- but I’m in CA so that could be it.

If it’s not going to break the bank or put you into debt, then I think you should enjoy it. But who caused the guest list to grow? Is it you and your Fiance or others? Are there people who need to be wrangled (or whose visions need to be curtailed?)- are there other areas that you can be a little more restrained? 10k still seems pretty reasonable (it’s just more than you’d initially intended to spend)

My concern is that you said “it’s spiraling” rather than “it spiraled” which makes me wonder if you might continue going over budget in other areas as well. You may need to reassess (there are some sites that will tell you what you can expect to spend for your entire wedding based on certain criteria).

Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper

I would cut the guestlist. Nothing has to spiral, invite who you want to invite and stay within budget. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

Beth7210 :  Same thing happened to me, we didn’t really have a strict budget, we’re paying for it ourselves and can be flexible but I’m looking at almost double as well. Mainly because I originally underestimated the cost of hosting an event like this, even in the small way that we are going about doing it. Everything adds up fast, especially when you keep adding people to the guestlist, and I forgot about some smaller details… I’ve read posts from other bee’s basically saying they went way over as well. Seems to be the norm.

If you’re worried about it cutting into your honeymoon budget, I would be firm with who you allow to be added to the guestlist. Sometimes you just have to say “no” if it’s someone you don’t care to have at your special day.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

Hahaha it happens, especially if you set a low budget and you didn’t necessarily *need* to keep it that low. We thought we could do a 10k wedding and it’s now a 35k wedding, but we can afford it and we realized it’s our one chance at the wedding of our dreams with everyone who loves us! 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2021 - City, State

Yeah £7k is probably not a huge budget dependant on time of year tbh ๐Ÿ™ 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

My budget is also 7k. Fiance originally wanted 5k. I knew that wouldn’t work. When we first started planning, we got to about 12k. Neither of us were having it. In fact we decided to postpone the wedding and reassess… everything. Our guest list is shorter, and our venues, and caterer have changed as well. It’s a terrible feeling to feel things are out of control. I agree with PP, start with the guest list. Make yourself rules and stick to them for the guest list. 

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I am in the UK. I know you can get married for £3k but its tough. I thought we’d easily keep it under £20k but some quick maths makes it about £45 including honeymoon. We needed a hotel that could do all inclusive and it’s not cheap. We’re not DIYing much compared to some but we are to some extent (eg flowers) and we’re keeping things tight. Transport, music, the cake, paper goods (invites and signage) are all gifts from our friends.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

Beth7210 :  I really feel your pain. Even at this super early stage of planning process, I had to have a reality check. Upon realizing the budget we’ll likely be facing, I got super anxious at first, but I’ve been trying to repeat to self what newbeegirl said…

newbeegirl :  Exactly what you said. Our original budget of $30k quickly blew into $45k (without rings and honeymoon). It’s not like we “can’t” afford it persay, but the logical side of me has trouble processing the idea of spending that much on a day. But I keep telling myself it’s probably the one and only times where all of our loves ones will gather and feast together…so yeah. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

KittensBee :  I don’t think we’re alone in these feelings (at least I hope not!). I will be honest, my fiancé and I still have trouble feeling totally “no big deal” about spending this much on one day, but it will be beautiful and I can’t imagine regretting it if it’s exactly what we want and envision when we think of our perfect day! 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

UK bee here, £7k is a tight budget for everything if it’s not a registry office and a pub buffet. You have made some great savings so far though, I’m sure you could achieve more if you put your mind to it! How many guests are on the list now if you have added 30 you forgot? Could you have a really small daytime and invite people for the evening instead? (Our evening guests are £100 a head cheaper than our daytime guests!) If you’re already contacted to the venue, photographer etc there’s not much to adjust other than the guest list or the budget!

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

newbeegirl :  Totally, this is why I’m so thankful for the Bee ol! I’m very quite IRL about wedding talks, because no one around me is recently engaged or married and I’m fully aware it’s not a topic of interest unless you’re involved in it personally ๐Ÿ™‚ Yeah, my Fiance and I also swing back and forth on the “mood spectrum” when it comes to budget. Right now I’m in a more accepting mood, but at times I feel guilty and anxious. 

Your date is coming up, you must be really excited! I’m sure it’s gonna be a beautiful, exactly as you pictured, and worth every penny. I look forward to your recap ๐Ÿ™‚

 

 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

KittensBee :  Same! 

I am getting so excited, time has gone by so quickly and it seems to keep getting faster the closer we get! I hope so, everything is coming together perfectly so far. When are you getting married? ๐Ÿ™‚ 

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