- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
thanks everyone for your input 🙂
thanks everyone for your input 🙂
If he’s paying attention to whether nine girls have different dresses on the wedding day, he’s doing it wrong. I can’t imagine it would be an issue. Besides, I doubt there exists 9 different dresses. Just don’t tell him anything else about the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, this way you’re not technically lying. If he gets mad, explain the ladies are spending their own money on the dresses and you can’t control what they pick.
We did alternating dreses, 2 in one style and 3 in the other. It was too difficult to find 5 dresses in the same color/fabric let alone 9! I think that may be impossible.
@HeathenSwan: thanks that’s exactly how I feel!! I also think that since the girls have different body types the dresses might fall differently on each of them anyway…I told him I was going to google photos to show him that it can be done tastefully so if anybody comes across any please feel free to post !
Honestly, I know he has a vision, but I kinda feel like he’s just gonna have to suck this one up. If the girls are buying their own dresses it’s not really fair that they should have to buy something they don’t like/arent comfortable just so it ISN’T the same…what if two girls like the same one? How are you gonna decide who gets to wear it? I just think this is going to end up being a head ache for YOU.
Also, if the girls all have different body types, even if it is the same dress, it might not look like the same dress, so you might be able to be sneaky and trick him, lol.
He’s already given his preference. You have to honor that, or show him pictures of other options (3 in one style, 2 in another etc) and see if he’ll change his mind. Going against his preference and behind his back would be a really disrespectful thing to do.
I think you’re totally right with having the girls just choose the dress they like, but I don’t think you need to hide it from your fiance. Unless Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses is really a big thing for him, which I doubt, you won’t have any problems letting him know of your final decision. Say something like, “I really appreciate your inputs, and I’ve taken it into consideration. Unfortunately, we won’t have any control if the girls choose the same dress.” And then bring up something else that he would care about more like, dressing his groomsmen or the reception food. 🙂
I do not think you should intentionally lie to him, especially on something related to your wedding. Since he has an opinion, at least respect him enough to say, “I disagree and I want them to do this instead.”
thanks everyone for your input….I just showed him a photo of a bridal party of 10 girls and I think he could see right away with a bridal party that big it is barely noticeable if a couple of girls are wearing the same dress…he still said we should atleast try to get them to wear different dresses and if there is any “backlash” lol, we can go from there…
Of course you should just surprise him and let him deal. Since when do the guys have imput on the girls dresses. They don’t understand body type or the way things fit when your busty or not. I think it’s crazy he would have an opinion on it at all. He probably won’t notice with nine girls anyway.
I did the EXACT same thing you are doing (color from David’s Bridal and let them pick out their dress) but I agreed that it would be weird if some of them chose the same dress. So in order to encourage them to get their dresses picked soon I made a place on facebook where they could post their dress as soon as they bought it and let all the other bridesmaids know it was taken.
They all found a great dress for themselves and none of them are the same!
I think its going to look great!
I am having them all get nude shoes also and my Maid/Matron of Honor is AWESOME and making a matching sash for everyone!
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