(Closed) thanks!

posted 6 years ago in Dress
  • poll: What would you do?
    let the girls choose whatever dresses they want- a little white lie never killed anyone : (23 votes)
    68 %
    listen to your FI- it's all or nothing!! : (11 votes)
    32 %
  • Post # 3
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    745 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    If he’s paying attention to whether nine girls have different dresses on the wedding day, he’s doing it wrong. I can’t imagine it would be an issue. Besides, I doubt there exists 9 different dresses. Just don’t tell him anything else about the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, this way you’re not technically lying. If he gets mad, explain the ladies are spending their own money on the dresses and you can’t control what they pick.

    Post # 4
    Member
    1306 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We did alternating dreses, 2 in one style and 3 in the other. It was too difficult to find 5 dresses in the same color/fabric let alone 9! I think that may be impossible.

    Post # 6
    Member
    2786 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Honestly, I know he has a vision, but I kinda feel like he’s just gonna have to suck this one up. If the girls are buying their own dresses it’s not really fair that they should have to buy something they don’t like/arent comfortable just so it ISN’T the same…what if two girls like the same one? How are you gonna decide who gets to wear it? I just think this is going to end up being a head ache for YOU.

    Also, if the girls all have different body types, even if it is the same dress, it might not look like the same dress, so you might be able to be sneaky and trick him, lol.

    Post # 8
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    3886 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    He’s already given his preference. You have to honor that, or show him pictures of other options (3 in one style, 2 in another etc) and see if he’ll change his mind. Going against his preference and behind his back would be a really disrespectful thing to do.

    Post # 9
    Member
    197 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I think you’re totally right with having the girls just choose the dress they like, but I don’t think you need to hide it from your fiance. Unless Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses is really a big thing for him, which I doubt, you won’t have any problems letting him know of your final decision. Say something like, “I really appreciate your inputs, and I’ve taken it into consideration. Unfortunately, we won’t have any control if the girls choose the same dress.” And then bring up something else that he would care about more like, dressing his groomsmen or the reception food. πŸ™‚

    Post # 10
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    2106 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I do not think you should intentionally lie to him, especially on something related to your wedding. Since he has an opinion, at least respect him enough to say, “I disagree and I want them to do this instead.”

    Post # 12
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    1141 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Of course you should just surprise him and let him deal. Since when do the guys have imput on the girls dresses. They don’t understand body type or the way things fit when your busty or not. I think it’s crazy he would have an opinion on it at all. He probably won’t notice with nine girls anyway.

    Post # 13
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    1938 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I did the EXACT same thing you are doing (color from David’s Bridal and let them pick out their dress) but I agreed that it would be weird if some of them chose the same dress. So in order to encourage them to get their dresses picked soon I made a place on facebook where they could post their dress as soon as they bought it and let all the other bridesmaids know it was taken. 

    They all found a great dress for themselves and none of them are the same! 

    I think its going to look great! 

    I am having them all get nude shoes also and my Maid/Matron of Honor is AWESOME and making a matching sash for everyone! 

    Post # 15
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    1938 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @Dell79:   I am having 5 bridesmaids. They all really enjoyed it also! 

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