(Closed) going by my middle name

posted 7 years ago in Names
Post # 3
46653 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You can still keep your first, middle and last name, then hypenate (or not ) his last name.

Just because you are known by your middle name, as are many people including myself, you don’t have to get rid of your first name.

All 4 names would generally only be signed on legal documents, otherwise it would be middle, last and his last names.h

Post # 4
752 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010 - Ocean View Villas/Jasmine Seafood Restaurant

I know people with 4 names.  There are people named like Mary Joe Lou Smith.  If you’re feeling weird about dropping your first name, I would just add his last name.  You don’t need to drop anything.  If, however, you feel no attachment to your first name and it really doesn’t add anything, I think dropping it makes a lot of sense.  Then you could have ID cards and documents that have your now middle name actually be your first name on all your stuff.  Luckily, these types of changes aren’t huge deals to most people.  I think everyone would understand you having a long name or dropping your first name.

Post # 5
1046 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m contemplating the same thing, you don’t have to keep your first name. It’s just a pain in the ass to drop it. Depending on how hard it is in your state, you might want to just legally use 4 names.

Post # 6
2465 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

i legally have 2 last names, no hyphen– you can totally do that as an option. (ie, i have 4 names, 3 of which are “last” name types of names, as my middle name is my mom’s maiden name)

Post # 7
1025 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I was going to have 4 names but it didn’t fit on the social security card!

Post # 8
10714 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I go by my first name and I use my middle name (like it’s my last name) so I’m not taking his name at all. I might drop my last name all together or take my mothers maiden name… haven’t decided.

Post # 9
921 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Just add the last name to his name if you want. I already have four names. On some things it doesnt fit.. but its still my legal name.

Post # 10
5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

you should add a poll….

I vote option 2. Good luck

Post # 11
1941 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I say drop your first name. If everyone knows you as your middle name anyways, why not?

I absolutely hate my middle name. I love the name my mother had originally intended to be my middle name, but she changed her mind right after I was born. I tell her it’s my punishment for her being in labor with me for 36 hours lol.

Anyways, when me and my Fiance get married, I’ll be dropping my last name (which I also hate) and picking up his last name, and then changing my middle name to what it was supposed to have been all those years ago.

It’s your name – do what makes you happy 😀 

Post # 12
152 posts
Blushing bee

If you don’t want to have 4 names or a hyphenated last name, I would say do:

Your Middle Name – Your Last Name – His Last Name


Your Middle Name – Your First Name – His Last Name

Post # 13
311 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

You don’t have to drop any name if you don’t want to.  I have 4 names because I didn’t want to drop any of my names.  It’s all about preference and what you feel comfortable with.  If you feel comfortable dropping, for example, your first name, then do it.  If you don’t want to do that, then don’t. 

I can tell you it can be a pain trying to write your entire name.  My first and middle name are 4 letters, but my last names are both pretty long.  Even though legally, I have 4 names, when I sign for things (like Fed Ex packagers) or when someone I have just come in contact with asks for my name, I just write or tell them my first name and my husband’s last name.  It’s easier. 

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