Post # 1
I feel like I am going crazy right now.
My husband and I got married on September 7th. We never had sex before marriage, but I have been on combination birth control pills since the beginning of this year. I started early, so that my body could adjust before the wedding.
My predicted day of ovulation was on September 9th, just a couple of days after we started having sex.
On September 13th, I noticed some blood when I wiped. I have NEVER had spotting before, with or without taking BC.
Since then, I have had more cramping then usual.
I take the pills regularly at the same time, don’t take medications, haven’t been sick, etc. I know that, realistically, the chances that I am pregnant are slim, but I am still freaking out. I would love to buy a cheap test and be done with it, but most wouldn’t show anything this early anyways…
Post # 2
Try not to worry. Buy some cheap amazon strip tests if testing periodically will calm your nerves. Don’t overthink “predicted ovulation days” they aren’t often correct. If your period doesn’t show by the day it normally would, then take a test.
If you’re going to be this anxious about pregnancy and sex, consider doubling up your methods? Maybe add condoms or a Caya (diaphragm)?
Post # 3
alexam : bee, the pill stops you from ovulating.
I have massive pregnancy anxiety, I convinced myself beyond a doubt that I was pregnant with an iud even though I hadn’t had sex since my last period.
What’s helped me overcome that anxiety is learning about my body and learning about the birth control that I was taking.
I’ve been off of the birth control before so I know the signs that my body gives when I’m in my fertile window. I knew the birth control was working because I didn’t go through those changes, my body stayed the same for the entire month.
Learn about your birth control and how it prevents pregnancy. It can help alleviate this anxiety
Post # 4
alexam : Remember that the pill prevents ovulation. The 13th would be quite early to have any spotting due to a pregnancy. Right now you are about 8 DPO (days post ovulation, if even the day predicted is correct) and I got my first positive pregnancy test on 10 DPO.
To be honest, I think that the chances are slim to none that you are pregnant. If you have just started having sex, you could just be spotting from the extra activity down there, and the cramping could be the same. The only way to know is wait, take a test, and wait for your period to come.
Post # 5
You don’t ovulate when you’re on birth control.
I get it, this is your first time having sex so of course pregnancy is on your mind, but realistically there is virtually zero chance you could be pregnant if you’ve been taking your pill properly. The spotting is probably because you’re having sex for the first time and your cervix is a little irritated. That’s very common.
Post # 6
Did you notice any pain or discomfort during sex? It’s possible the spotting and cramping could just be an irritated cervix from your new bedtime routine.
Post # 7
I’ve been diagnosed with a few anxiety disorders and one of my symptoms is obsessive thoughts of pregnancy and the anxiety that I was pregnant.
My therapist and I figured out that it related to me needing to trust my birth control and my doctors. Giving up control and trusting someone, or something, other than myself, is not an easy feat with my anxiety. Once I learned what was driving the pregnancy anxiety, I was able to work on it
Post # 8
Spotting is actually a side effect of the pill, and may be happening now at the beginning while you’re new to it. It will probably go away. I wouldn’t be too concerned – just keep an eye on it, and if it’s happening regularly speak to your doctor.
Post # 9
- Wedding: November 2019 - City, State
Was the spotting around your fertile week? I always spot a little spontaneously or from sex during my ovulation week. I’ll spot again a few days before my period. It’s not abnormal to spot from sex, if it happens lots, try using lube. I had an IUD for a couple of years and it made my cervix more brittle so I spotted during sex very often. I switched to another form of BC and it doesn’t happen anymore. Hormones are tricky little buggers.
Post # 10
alexam : as PP have said you aren’t ovulating if you’re taking your pill properly (which it sounds like you are). The spotting and cramping is likely due to having sex for the first time! Even if it didn’t hurt at the time you might have bumped something funny or gotten a minor tear. Take a few days off to let any possible minor injury heal.