(Closed) going dress “looking” for the first time!

posted 9 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
233 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018 - Hotel Vitale

Take your own bra just in case. And just relax. Go to brunch or lunch beforehand and have a glass of wine. I was so scared and I woke up telling myself that I wouldn’t find ‘the dress,’ but I did. Have fun with it- laugh at yourself if something doesn’t look right and know that you have TONS of time before the big day and even more options out there! I wrote a post about my experience back in Jan. 

Good luck! And have fun!! 

Post # 4
1042 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Ok so…I’d say you and I are a lot alike. I’m a total perfectionist and when I go shopping sometimes I get so frustrated that I can’t find something that I love, or something where the details are just a little off!

Wedding dress shopping (or looking, if that’s what you want to call it) is really fun, and in my opinion, different than normal shopping/looking. You are looking for THE dress you want to wear. But! Since you are starting so far in advance (like I did/am) I would encourage you to try to go in with the mindset that you’re just going to check out different shapes and see different details on the dresses. Do NOT think about how you have to find the one. If it happens, it happens, but you ARE ONLY THERE TO LOOK.

So now that I’m pretty sure we’re on the same page with that…here are some tips drawn from my personal dress looking experience:

– First of all, just as one of those things nobody really thinks about, wear underwear that you wouldn’t feel embarrased about strutting around in with a salesperson and whomever you’re bringing. If you’re worried about modesty, bring a slip or wear a spanx or something. Also, wearing a strapless bra is helpful. This will help you not stress about actually getting into the dresses!

– Try everything! Focus on using this experience to try on different shapes and sihlouettes of dresses, and then go from there. Maybe you love the way a ballroom style dress looks in a magazine, but it might not be the most flattering on you. Maybe you love the mermaid sihlouette of the dress you tried on, but you just hate everything else about it. I’d encourage you to try as many different shapes and textures and necklines as possible, and maybe a couple things that you didn’t think you’d like just to make sure (do you hate lace? try on a lace dress to verify this!) I found that when I looked through magazines everything kinda looked the same to me, but I definitely found right away when I tried on things that I really liked a couple and really hated everything else on me.

– Tell the salesperson your price range. Call the shop in advance and make sure they carry some dresses in that range, and tell the sales person when you go to the shop that you DO NOT want to try on any dresses out of your price range and be firm about it! However, some sales people are pushy or don’t listen. If you do fall in love with a dress way out of your price range, don’t panic- it’s entirely possible to pick up the same expensive dress at a sample sale or online for a bargain price.

– Take pictures, if the shop allows it (may want to call beforehand to find out)! If the shop does not allow pictures, have your mom bring a notebook and write down the name and style of every dress you try on, and maybe jot a couple adjectives or notes about each dress, so if you love the dress or a specific aspect of a dress you can go research it!

Relax! Have fun! Good luck!

Post # 6
1042 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Oh yeah, I forgot to mention…I found my dress the second time I went "Dress looking" even though we’re a year out ๐Ÿ˜›

I’ll look forward to those pics if you can take some!

Post # 7
6009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I just wanted to chime in with some advice.   

As I was reading another thread, I was surprised to see how many girls didn’t realize you can ask the attendant to step out of the room while you are changing.  Just tell them you want your mom to zip you up! 

Also, it really helped me to look at dresses online and in magazines before I went into the store.  It made me much more familiar/comfortable with the terms used to describe a dress (e.g. different kinds of necklines, silhouettes, trains, fabrics, etc…). 

Finally, try on hair jewelry and veils, too!  I didn’t think I wanted a veil at all, but when I put the right one on, I really loved the look.  Plus, it’s fun to do the whole experience instead of just the dresses.

Good luck!

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