Post # 1
So, I plan on taking a couple close friends with me next weekend to go look at wedding dresses as sort of a warm up shopping trip. I find shopping for important events very stressful, and I know myself well enough to know if things are going badly, I may cry, so I wanted to go look at dresses with as little pressure as possible. If I end up buying a dress at a bridal salon, I want it to be while I’m with my mom and Future Mother-In-Law, so I know I won’t be buying anything on this first trip. Is this something I should share with the bridal consultant, that I won’t be buying anything that day?
Post # 2
I don’t think you need to say anything. Plenty of people go shopping for a dress and leave without one. For all they know, you found one you like but don’t want to make a decision without your mom. Or you just didn’t find anything you like.
If you straight up tell them you won’t be buying, I’d worry they’d do a half ass job.
Post # 3
I did the same thing, I had a TON of anxiety about dress shopping and told the consultant I did – I went like 14 months before my wedding, so they knew I wasn’t going to buy. However, I did totally find my dress! I will buy it when my mom can come into town (my sister was facetiming my parents during the appointment, but I want that experience of going with my mom). I like that I have had time to think about it and when I look at dresses I compare all of the ones I like to my dress and my dress wins everytime! It’s kind of nice when there is no pressure – I did not think I would come close ot finding my dress, so keep an open mind and have fun!
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2017 - Vineyard on Long Island
Each time I’ve gone, I’ve told them it’s my first time and we’re just starting to take a look at what’s around… I’ve found it lets the consultant kinda take the reins and show me a wide variety of dresses that I might not have originally picked for myself, and it has helped me start to get an idea of what I like and don’t like without any pressure to buy. By telling the consultant that it’s your first dress shopping trip and giving her only vague guidelines of what you want to start with, I’ve found that they really have no expectation of you falling in love with anythign and buying it that day, but rather that they’re just there to help you examine some options.
Post # 5
Nope. I wouldn’t say anything about not buying. They can’t honestly expect that EVERYONE that comes into a salon going to buy that day. Just say it’s your first time and wanted to look around. They may back off and leave you at it. If you find something and want to come back, you can flag them down and maybe book an appointment to come back with your mom and Future Mother-In-Law. At least so they have the chance at a commission if you do end up buying it later.
Post # 6
you can just tell the consultant you’re only there to get ideas and leave it at that.
it really depends on the store and consultant you work with. on my first trip, the consultant was incredibly laid back, hands off, no pressure at all.
however another store i went to, had her manager breathing down her neck to close a sale for me, i felt so bad for that consultant! i honestly didn’t find anything at that store, and it wasn’t the consultants fault, just not my taste in dresses.
if you want to be nice, you can always take down the consultant’s name and business card and tell her you’ll return after you’ve thought it over.
Post # 7
At every bridal salon I’ve been to (5 at this point…oy), there has not been any pressure by the consultant to buy a dress. In fact they always end the appointment by saying “Ok, so when you come back…” rather than “Ok, so what do you want to do?” So don’t worry about it! I don’t think it’s necessay to say anything.
Post # 8
Thanks everyone for your input! You all gave some great ideas and made me feel at ease about the experience. I’m more excited about the trip now!
Post # 9
Don’t say anything to the consultant. I went to 6 bridal salons and not a single consultant I worked with tried to pressure me into buying anything (probably becuase i hated everything i tried on). Even when I found “the dress” I didnt buy it on the spot, but came back. Consultants aren’t like used car salesmen so dont worry.
The most annoying part of dress shopping, IMO, was the slow speed of trying on dresses. I can tell in a milisecond whether or not I like a dress, so the most awkward part is kind of standing aruond in a dress u know u dont like while the consultant is like, oh how do u feel in this, we can change this and this… and I’m just like, NEXT!!