Post # 1
Hi all! I’m very excited to go wedding dress shopping for the 1st time this weekend! I definitely have a few ideas in mind about what I want, but I am nervous that I will not be able to find “the one”. I know I shouldn’t expect to find my dress my first time out, but I am hoping I can!
So tell me, did you find your dress at your first appointment?
Also, what should I expect when I get there. Do I pick out my own dresses, does the consultant? What type of undergarments did you wear? I was thinking a nude strapless bra and nude underwear (fully covered, lol). Was is difficult to pick something if you had a large group with you? I am going with 6 people.
And what % of the dress do you normally have to pay for the deposit (if I find my dress!)
Eeeek! Can’t wait!
Post # 3
I’ve been to a ton of stores! Usually they let me walk around and tag a few dresses I wanted to try on. In bigger stores they would ask what I wanted to see and go grab those for me. When I ordered my dress it was 50% plus tax deposit.
Good plan to wear a nude strapless bra, and make sure you have full coverage underwear. It can be rather awkward if you’re wearing a thong!
Post # 4
I only went to two stores, so I don’t have a ton of advice, but one thing I would suggest is to try many different styles to figure out the cut that works best for you, don’t be close minded about anything. You might be surprised about what you like on vs. what you always imagined yourself wearing.
ETA: I really advise against going with a large group, most of the bridal shops advise against it as well. I only went with my mom and it was a great experience. I really didn’t want or care about anyone else’s opinions. It will definitely be more difficult to find a dress you really love if you are listening to what everyone else thinks.
Both of the shops I went to were pretty high end, the first one was the Amsale/Kenneth Pool showroom, there all of the dresses were out and I could walk around and choose which dresses I wanted to try on. At Kleinfeld’s I just went into the dressing room and the consultant pulled dresses based on what I told her I liked. I believe I needed to give a 50% deposit for my dress.
Post # 5
Very exciting…i bought my dress at the 3rd store i went to and tried on approximately 16 dresses total. Every store i went to, they provided undergarments so I am not sure, but I did wear nude strapless bra just in case. I only went with my mother because i didnt want my friends/familys opinions lol Two of bridal store i told them what i was looking for and showed them pics and they picked out a few different dresses…the other bridal store they told me to look through the racks and pick out what i like…which i didnt like that because i had no clue what would look good on because some of them off the rack were ugly lol
You can expect the appointment to last 1-1 1/2 hours i believe is the norm and in that time trying on 6-8 dresses. If its your first time, i would suggest trying on all different styles, even if you think you would not like it, you may be surprised. And my advice would be not to rush into a decision. Bridal stores usually make you put down a 50-60% deposit as well.
Good luck and keep us bee’s posted!
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
I went to several bridal shops and bought a dress I thought I loved. I ended up with dress regret and finding a different dress (same designer). I ended up loving a dress I said I never wanted. My advice is to go with an open mind. Seriously. I was so afraid to try on mermaid gowns because I didn’t think I had the body type for it. I also said I wasn’t going to wear a lace dress because I thought they were too old fashioned.
Needless to say I ended up with dress regret and buying a mermaid all lace dress that I’m in love with :). So just go with an open mind, don’t think that something is or will not flatter you before trying it on. Dresses look different in the stock photos and on models than on you.
Post # 7
Found my dress on the second try and it ended up being something that I had seen online and didn’t like when I initially laid eyes on it! Then the girl brought it out to me and when I saw the halter tie that flowed down the back I thought, “uh oh, I didn’t like this dress online…” tried it on and “OMG, this is it!” and bought it that evening.
So be open minded and try on everything. You might be pleasantly surprised!
Post # 8
I did, but then we cancelled/postponed the wedding. I went back nearly a year letter and tried on a few others, but still bought the dress I had picked a year before. I don’t know if I had the”it’s the one” moment, but aim very happy withmy choice and can’t wait for it to turn up!
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Post # 10
It was the last dress on the first day. I went to quite a few dress shops after this and over that time I thought I had gone off it. Sure enough went back to make sure it wasn’t the one…and it was!
Post # 11
@AmyFarrahFowler: I thought about going with a smaller group, but the thought of leaving some people out really bothered me. I have both biological mom and a step mom, so they both had to be there, then both my sisters and my Maid/Matron of Honor. If I don’t end up finding something this weekend, I think I will scale back the # of people I bring with me. Probably just my Maid/Matron of Honor.
Thanks for all the advice ladies! I will try to be open minded like you all suggest 🙂 The styles that I don’t like are not ones that I necessarily think will look bad on me, just ones that I personally don’t care for.
I’ll keep you posted!
Post # 12
Don’t worry too much if you don’t find the one. Sometimes you can find something that is close to what you want and alter a few things to make it exactly what you want. Concentrate on how the dress makes you feel. I got my dress on my 2nd appointment and am getting a few things altered. It was on sale and I will come in under budget even with the alterations.
Post # 13
My advice is to be very open minded. I thought I knew what type of dress I wanted and thought it would look good on me, so I picked a bunch out in that style and hated them all! One of my bridesmaids picked out a different dress, and I loved it so much. I wanted to buy it then and there, but decided to wait. We looked at other places after that, but ultimately I ended up going back the next day to buy the first dress!
I agree that it can be distracting to have too many people. What I did was invite all of my bridesmaids and some family to the first day of shopping, but then the next day I just took my mom and sister. It worked out well.
Post # 14
I haven’t selected my dress yet but I’ve been to a few salons and they’re all different. One asked me what I wanted and picked stuff based on my likes, a different one gave me catalogues to browse through, I walked through with the sales lady on one and the last one just had us go picking dresses on our own… All very different expereinces.
My advice would be: Move around a lot in the dress, make sure you can sit and dance in it.
Take lots of pictures from all different angles. I loved a dress until I saw a picture my sister took of me while she was sitting and I was standing. It was so unflattering and made me look wide. This is an angle a lot of people might get me from so, bye bye beautiful dress!
Also consider how intricate of a dress it is, will it take 2 or more people to get you out of the dress on your wedding night?
Lastly- have fun!
Post # 15
I went to 2 bridal salons (I planned to go to 2 more to try on specific dresses but found mine at the 2nd store and cancelled the other appts.) and probably tried on around 15-20 dresses. The first trip was to mainly figure out what styles were flattering on me and just get a feel for what I wanted. At that store, I walked around and hand picked all the dress and the consultant didn’t even help me in the dresses…it was my mom who helped. That part was crappy as I felt like I didn’t get the full experience. I didn’t really find anything I liked at that store but it helped me figure out what I didn’t like.
The 2nd salon I went to I sat down with my consultant (who was also the owner) and she asked questions about what I wanted. She then started to pull dresses. If I happened to see a specific dress I liked she would also pull that too. She helped me into every dress and I really felt like I got the whole experience.
1. Go in with an open mind! I wanted a specific look and ended up with something completely different.
2. Keep in mind that unless you are a size 6 or below (in street sizes), most of the samples will be too small. Don’t get discouraged by this!! Deisgner sizes suck butt
3. Bring a strapless bra, or those sticky bras, and wear boy-short type undies. My salon gave me a skirt slip to wear but not every place provides this and it might be awkward in a thong lol
4. Do not freak out if you absolutely love a dress but don’t have that “Say Yes to the Dress crying my eyes out” moment. Most girls do not have this and it can cause problems if you feel like you must have this moment before you can commit to a dress. Typically if you love the dress enough to where you don’t want to take it off or try on more dress, then it’s the one!
Post # 16
@LuckyinLove17: i found a beautiful dress the first appointment but as time passed my style changed i was really in to ball gowns till i tried one on and felt how heavy they were to me. i did not think i could pull of a fit and flare and i was terrified to try one on and the bridal consultant put me in one and it was too late to back down lol i fell head over heels in love with it and how lite the dress was and at how Va va voom i looked in it. but i tried on over 40 dresses before i found the one and i’m still not sure ; ) but that dress is at the top of my list.