Post # 1
Yes, you read that correctly. I am not even a picky person, i Loved my makeup trial on the first shot. I feel like I “hired” a hair stylist who does not understand what I want. To be honest, in the weeks leading up to my first trial, I worried a lot if she could do what I want because her Instagram feed was filled with hairstyles I hated. I’m not saying she did not do them properly, I just hated the styles so I assumed that she just happened to have brides who were requested styles that were totally not me. But after doing two trials, I am worried that she only knows how to do the very prom-y and bridal type hair updos.
I am not saying that it is not nice for other people, it’s just really not what I want. I want a very very soft, romantic, loose look. And though she improved slightly in the second trial, it was still way too put together for me and not at all the look I was going for. I kept telling her that I wanted a soft and less-perfect look and it seems she took that to mean just messy. Here is the inspiration photo I showed her:
And this is what I got:
After the trial, I expressed to her what I did not like about it and she is willing to do a third trial free of charge. My wedding is in one week so we really need to get it right this time. How do I express clearly to her what is wrong with it?
I already know the bun needs to be lower, but what else? That’s not the whole thing, it is not loose, soft or romantic at all. I feel like I have a ball of hair attached to the back of my head. Maybe some hair stylists out there can offer their expertise too?
I’ve started really freaking out that I am going to hate it and I don’t want to go into my wedding day with negative apprehensions.
Post # 2
unless she really teased the hell out of it- right off the bat your hair is a very different texture than the model.
i think youll have to have your hair flat ironed, blown out, or dried in large velcro rollers to first get it straight and silky.
then you’ll need to do the curling and pinning after that, also using product that defines and holds the curls without being too heavy.
Post # 3
Agreed with Yaara. Your hair looks much thicker (and likely longer) then the models hair. In order to have your hair in that style of bun it’ll look much bigger and need to be pinned more. Unless it’s flattened/blown out as yaara suggested.
Post # 4
yaara : kimmacph :
my hair is actually not that dry and is definitely not curly. I have naturally straight hair, not thin, but not super thick either. I agree this photo makes my hair look matted, dry and tangly. That is NOT my hair normally which is why I’m so concerned.
I can’t tell how long the model’s hair is, but mine is chest level (hits the top of my breasts).
Post # 5
Did she backcomb it a bunch then? Use a super sticky/thick hair spray? If your hair is straight then the model’s hairstyle should definitely be achievable.. She shouldn’t need to backcomb at all, use some soft curlers with a light hairspray and it shouldn’t get that matted look.. It should definitely be set lower and looser with a number of pieces falling out on purpose. I think your assumption of this hairstyle not being her strong point is probably correct unfortunately.
Post # 6
- Wedding: December 1969 - City, State
Can you find another stylist? I ended up going through two hair trials and three makeup trials with different people each time to get the look I wanted. It was a headache and cost so much, but it was worth it when my wedding day came and there were no surprises with how I looked.
Post # 7
leembee : my wedding is in 10 days so I really don’t have time to find another stylist. A decent stylist probably won’t even be available with one week’s notice.
Thankfully, she is willing to do as many trials as it takes to get it right, so I wanted to get outside opinions on how I should explain it to her so she gets it.
I already told her the bun needs to be much lower, to removed the twists above the bun, to create more volume at the top and that it needs to be looser.
From what I understand, she first tied the hair at the nape of my neck into a very small ponytail and then slowly curled (with an iron) each strand and then pinned it (not really sure where she pinned it since I was not in front of a mirror). she had left the hair at the crown out of the bun so she could do the twists (which are awful) and then teased the top a bit to create volume. I know I don’t want the top simply teased, but to have wavy hair that falls back instead of towards the side.
I will suggest to her that we straighten it first to acheive the silky look… and to maybe use less hairspray? But is there anything else I can say?
Post # 8
I had a hair stylist who just never got what I was looking for unfortunately…my hair turned out pretty on my wedding day but nothing really what I wanted..my hair trial was a disaster and I picked a simpler style for the wedding because I wanted to avoid a mess the day of. Sometimes stylists just don’t understand what we are looking for…is that the only pic you have? Maybe showing it from different angles would help?