(Closed) Going it alone… normal to be overwhelmed by planning alone??

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
4193 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

If your bridesmaids are single, that may be why they don’t seem interested- I’ve been on that side, and it’s really hard for single girls to get excited sometimes (that’s why I only try to talk planning details with women already married). You  said one called you a Bridezilla, so something’s happened that makes them feel it’s not worth trying. Also, a year is a long time for people to maintain enthusiasm.

What else do you need to do? If there are specific things you need help with, can you ask “bridesmaid, could you please help me with planning XYZ?” My family’s not really involved with the planning, which I see as a plus-no one’s pressuring me to make any decisions/criticizing the ones we’ve made.

Post # 4
2981 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

You poor thing! I’d be SO PISSED if my family brushed me off like this, especially my own mother, who obvoiusly has no problem watching the wedding programs, yet won’t bat an eye or lift a finger to help her own daughter. Thank goodness for those 2 BMs who helped you, and for your father who made her get off her arse to help you pick your dress. I’d probably pick a good time and try to calmly confront her on why she is showing such little interest. It breaks my heart to hear stories about such mothers who are so indifferent-or worse- the mothers who ruin their daughter’s wedding day. 

How is your FI? Is he willing to help you plan? I might try to get him, your dad, and the “good” BMs more involved and say to heck with everyone else. 

Of course, you have the hive to help you plan! 🙂 

Post # 6
642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m sorry that you are going through this with your family. If you are the youngest of five your Mom might be having a hard time dealing with the fact that her youngest is getting married. I don’t really have any advice to give you on how to get them more involved in your wedding planning but remember you are never planning alone when you are here in the hive. 

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