- 2 weeks ago
- Wedding: May 2020
Hi everyone! I’m seriously considering going little to no contact with my soon to be in laws, and would love to hear of anyone’s experience with this.
I have a less than perfect relationship with them. While my fiancé’s brother is absolutely lovely and we get along well, his parents are a proper nightmare. Fiancé and I believe and have agreed that it is racially motivated.
Father-In-Law is intrusive and plain rude. He has no hesitation in questioning and attacking my life. My career pathway, my ethnicity and racial background, my degree, the university both fiancé and I attended, and my religion (or lack thereof) have been attacked by him, as if I am incapable of making a good decision. Mother-In-Law is also intrusive and attempts to discuss private matters. Her comments are shut down immediately, by both fiancé and I.
At a recent Christmas event, Father-In-Law decided to bring up some health issues that I have experienced, to fiance’s entire extended family. Other than that awkward exchange, fiance’s entire extended family blatantly ignored me throughout the event and effectively acted as though I was invisible. I wish I’d never been invited in the first place
I suppose I’m also asking whether I’m justified in wanting to go little to NC with them. Fiancé and I have discussed this, and while he doesn’t want me to go NC, he also understands my reasons why. I don’t want to be in a position where I’m treated as though I’m not worth the time of day and by seeing his family, I feel as though I’m letting that happen. I’m completely sick of it.
Any thoughts and advice would be appreciated x