Post # 1
My Fiance and I are getting married in 6 months. Not that we want to TTC right away, but we have talked about not trying to not get pregnant. Anyways, I want to go off the pill so that I have got a jump start on starting to ovulate (I know it can take up to 2 years or so). I wanted to know:
– what are the side effects? Am I going to be in rough shape for my wedding day? Gain weight? Lose it? Tons of acne?
– I have been on the pill for 9 years. Should I be concerned about mood swings, random other hormone related things?
– If I go off the pill, what other methods of BC would you recommend for the next few months that are non-invasive and non-hormonal? (I’ve been on the pill since before I started having sex so I never really looked into other BC options).
Any advice is truly appreciated before we make this decision!
Post # 3
I went off the pill in August, and have noticed a little bit more acne than usual, but it seems to have tapered almost back to normal now, except for right before my period. I didn’t have any mood swings, but there was definitely a little bit more like my emotions were a bit less controlled. The only MAJOR difference emotionally was that I was/am way more interested in sex. I think if you watch your diet, weight gain shouldn’t be too much of an issue either. As for birth control in the meantime, if you’re not opposed to condoms, they’re easily the most convenient, temporary, yet effective method.
Post # 4
I gained a lot of weight, subsequently leading me to go back on them 😉
A lot I think depends on your experience while on them. For me my weight never changed and I could loose very easily, so getting rid of them caused the reverse ( I have low progesterone)
For those who feel as though BC makes them gain weight while on, I have found they feel better after wards.
Regardless your body will need some time to regulate, so don’t freak if you don’t get a period right away or get more than one a month. Its all part of the game 😉
Best of luck!
Post # 5
I haven’t gone off the pill yet, but I just wanted to say you might want to wait until after the wedding– you just don’t know how it will affect you, and, say, it makes you a little nutty for a few months, you definitely wouldn’t want that to be the few months before your wedding! Plus, on the pill at least you know when to expect your period, which would be way thrown off– I’m having visions of Sixteen Candles and the sister 🙂
Since you aren’t looking to try right away, I’d wait until after the wedding and honeymoon and then go off with still plenty of time to regulate.
Post # 6
I hope you plan on using another form of birth control prior to the wedding. I was pregnant two weeks after stopping the pill.
Post # 7
I got pregnant pretty quickly after stopping the pill too, within 2 months (the first time we actually “tried” though). You may just want to stay on it until after the wedding. That way you can control when AF visits (i.e. stop your BC a week early if it lands on your wedding week). Certainly not fun to have your period for the wedding and the honeymoon!
But to answer your question, I didn’t notice anything weird after I stopped. No acne. No weight gain. Nada. As far as PMS symptoms, it just depends on how you were before you started BC. You’ll go back to that.
Post # 8
@amelieisme: Unfortunately I am getting married and then going on a 21 day road trip, so AF will likely visit no matter what method I am trying! I’m not so concerned about that, simply because “such is life”. I’m sure I can still have a decent wedding with a friendly visit!
@Vegas Pug: I am planning on using an alternate method. I know that it can take up to two years to ovulate… and I know that it can take no time at all! I mentioned in my post suggestions for non-hormonal BC for that reason specifically.
Thanks for all the information, everyone!!
Post # 9
Coming off the pill was/is horrible for me. I was on the pill for the same time as you and I’ve gained 5kg (in 2 months), my moods and emotions are all over the place and I’ve got acne back. It’s a bit better now but I still don’t feel ‘right’. It differs for everyone though so you don’t really know how your body will react. My period came on the exact day it was technically meant to so my body adjusted well in that way, but emotion wise it’s been a tough ride! I wish I had waited a bit after our wedding to come off it so my moods and emotions didn’t cause frustration in our honeymoon time.
Post # 10
Chances are you will not have to wait a couple years after going off the pill to start ovulating. My doc recommended we go off and then wait 3 months before TTC, and my friend’s doc said to go off and try right away. If you want to prep, I would suggest that you start taking folic acid because the pill strips that from your body. Otherwise, if the only reason you are going off is to prep for TTC after the wedding, I’d wait until 3 months before you are ready. Oh, and book an appointment with your doc to let them know what you are doing. They might want to test to see if you need a booster shot for rubella and other things.
Having said all that, in my 3 month wait before TTC, I didn’t notice any changes.
Post # 11
Here’s my anecdotal evidence.
I was on the pill over 10 years. I’m on CD 66 coming off the pill and I have no idea when I’ll be back to normal cycle-wise. No periods. I can tell my hormones are really low, too. I’m happy I went off when I did so *hopefully* I will have something resembling normal, ovulatory cycles when we want to TTC. I’m in my 30s, so when it is time I want to be ready. I think the “official stat” (at least the statistic commonly cited, although the source of the statistic is never cited) is that one in thirty women coming off the pill suffers from post-pill amenorrhea (which some define as not getting a period for over three months, some define as not getting a period for over six months).
I feel much better off the pill. My mood really improved. So did my sex drive!! I will never go back on hormonal birth control. I had no idea it affected me so much. I haven’t had much weight gain or loss (I’ve been at a steady weight for most of my life, though). I did get a few zits, but nothing major.
Condoms are a totally under-appreciated form of birth control. Use them consistently, and properly and they are almost as effective as the pill. Lube also makes them much more enjoyable (and far less likely to break). It’s worth experimenting with different kinds of condoms, too. They are not created equal. I find Trojans to suck, for instance. Condom depot has every kind imaginable and free shipping.
My husband is not a huge condom fan (although I don’t think he has a right to complain until we use them for 10 years — for as long as I was on the pill) so I am charting as well. We may switch to fertility awareness eventually. But in order to do so I first need to be fertile. I really recommend charting. I used to find it so scary to be off the pill, but that was because I lacked the knowledge that charting gives me.
Post # 12
I’m getting married in about 8 months and came of BCP about 2 months ago. I have been on hormonal birth control for over 11 years so I had no idea what my body would do without it! I’m happy to report that my cycles are regulating nicely, I have had no fluctuation up or down with my weight, and aside from a little acne before my period all is well. My sex drive is up a bit, and we use condoms as birth control. I started charting my temps so I can predict my cycles better, and I also feel like when/if we get to the point where we want to TTC I’ll have a better idea of what’s going on with my body.
Post # 13
I went off the pill in December. I was on Generess and had been on it for a few months – before that I was on Yaz. I was so, so worried about symptoms, etc. – but I’ve ben fine. Maybe a little more acne, but nothing too noticeable. I use charting/FAM and it’s pretty cool – we have been very careful this month, but it’s exciting to see the signs indicate that everything is working like it should. I also think I feel more like “me” after going off – less anxious, mood swing-y, etc. And much more into Fiance, which he is really happy about 🙂
Just wanted to weigh in – when I was making this decision I was so nervous about what the after-effects would be – and now, I couldn’t be happier that I decided to do it when I did. Good luck.
Post # 14
Personally, I’d suggest that you wait until after your wedding to go off the pill. People react so differently- it’s hard to say what your symptoms will be.
For me, it’s been pretty crappy. I’m still on my first cycle since going off (currently CD35!!!). I’ve gained weight, my skin has broken out, and I had terrible cramping and headaches for the first couple of weeks. I’ve been charting in hopes of figuring out my cycle, but at this point I have absolutely no idea when I’ll get my period this month because I didn’t ovulate this cycle. I wouldn’t want to be worrying about that during my honeymoon!
Post # 15
I felt a million times better after going off the pill. No more crazy mood swings, no more constant fatigue, but that time of the month got heavier and my skin flared up temporarily while my body adjusted.
I would wait until after the wedding to go off the pill. You have no way of knowing how your body will react (everyone is different) and you don’t want any unpleasant side effects that you have to deal with for the big day.
Post # 16
Read ‘Taking Charge of Your Fetility’