Post # 1
Even though I was with someone for a very long time, I don’t know the first thing about dating.
I met a guy through mutual friends at a bar last week, and he was a very quiet, nice man. Wasn’t sure if he was interested, but I was told he’s just very quiet.
A day later my friend tells me that he asked for my number and wants her to set up a double date for all of us. I was suprised. We are going out on Friday. Boy, am I nervous. He just got out of a divorce a year ago, and from what I heard, he hasn’t really dated either. I’m nervous because he hasn’t made any iniative to talk to me, since I know he has my number. I know he’s quiet, so I guess that’s the reason. I’m on the quiet side, so I guess I get it.
I feel a little childish explaining these things, but I truly am inexperienced when it comes to dating. My ex I met through work, so I’ve never really had an official first date.
We are going to dinner and bowling.
It’s just ironic that we can all be in long-term relationships and still have no clue what we are doing when it comes to building potential new ones. I thought I wouldn’t be this nervous.
Post # 2
Just have fun. The first date is just about getting to know each other. Don’t put pressure on it.
Post # 3
How exciting! When I used to date I looked forward to getting ready. Id put on my music on speaker, sometimes have a drink (just one) by myself while doing makeup and hair, then had fun putting on clothing options.
When you go out, its best to have absolutely no expectations. Look forward to meeting someone new, dont even think past the first date. That way there is no pressure and you can just relax.
He hasnt met you yet so its completely fine that he hasnt messaged you. I would only expect him to after the date. That or you message him, either way. 🙂
Post # 4
Be yourself and have fun. If it’s meant to work it will work
Post # 5
Be who you are.
Focus on whether you like and feel comfortable with your date.
Avoid putting a lot of energy into analyzing the date—pay attention to whether you like him, not the other way around.
Just have fun with it. Keep an open mind and reframe it as getting to know some new people, rather than going on safari to hunt down the mythical creature, Mr Right, who doesn’t exist anyway.
Even if you don’t find true love on the first pass, you could end up making a new friend or two. Nothing wrong with that.