- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2018
Background: I’m 34, he will be 41 in 2 weeks. We’ve been together since 2/10.
My SO and I have had a bumpy few months. He was supposed to move in Jan 1. but wanted to keep his stuff at place (we both own) so he would have somewhere to sleep if he had to go to work early (my place is a little over an hour from his office. his place only 35 min). I thought that was bullshit and broke it off on Jan 1. Obvious commitment issues
We spoke intermittently and saw each other a few times and really went through things over Valentine’s Day. We still really love each other but the challenge is that we both feel we can not go back to just dating. I don’t want him to feel like he HAS to propose. We just kind of dropped it and took some time apart.
Fast forward to last week- out of nowhere we decided to go on vacation. He said “let’s go to Paris. I will give you a budget, you can plan it.” We ended up choosing Belize instead and we are both VERY EXCITED. That said…. I can’t help but wonder…. Is he thinking about proposing? Or eloping? When we’ve discussed weddings I’ve always said it was my dream to slip away and elope alone. This just seems like a great opportunity. We haven’t really discussed where we are as a couple beyond that we still really love each other and wish we could work it out. Do I bring it up? Do I just let it happen? Eloping there is pretty simple so we wouldn’t need to do a lot of pre-planning.
I’m not sure of the point of this….