Going ring shopping together!

posted 1 year ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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Busy bee

ckee7777 :  Have you considered looking at used/estate rings? My engagement ring was ~1100, purchased last year. It’s a 1 carat solitaire, very clean, and near colorless.

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

We picked mine out together! Stick to your budget and don’t let them pressure you. If they are rude or pushy walk out of the store. Don’t be afraid to try different things you didn’t originally think about. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee

ckee7777 :  you can check out Diamond Bistro or I Do Now I Don’t. Another option for new rings is Blue Nile. You can get a .91ct G/SI1/Ideal cut diamond for ~3800. Settings start at 200.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

How exciting bee! Definitely define your budget between the two of you, and promise to stick with it, before you go in. And be sure to try on every style in person that you think you might be interested in, as opposed to only trying on specific ones you liked online, you might surprise yourself!

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

I would second the advice to consider buying a center stone elsewhere, and having it set by the local jeweler. You might get higher quality and save money that way.

Also, consider lab diamonds. Anonymousbee001 quotes a Blue Nile price for a mined diamond (and Blue Nile is about the cheapest place for mined diamonds), but compare that to a lab diamond from Brilliant Earth: same 0.91 ct, G color, SI1 clarity, ideal cut, is… $2170. $1600 cheaper than mined, for identical specs. A price like that would let you get a larger diamond than you were considering, with a great custom setting, for less than your price limit. With the added advantage that no diamond was mined for it!

I recently talked with three local jewelers in my area, and all three were happy to set stones I provided myself. And nobody was pushy. So I hope you have such stores in your area!

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

I picked my ring and sent FH a link to it! He wanted me to be happy with it, as you said it’s going to be on your finger every day. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

We didn’t look together except once when we stumbled over a Tiffany’s in Amsterdam. That’s where we both knew it would be a tiffany style setting. I went online and compared settings as there where so many with tiny tiny differences a man wouldn’t spot if they would blink red. So I picked out about 7-9 (I can’t really remember) settings I liked in different stores – WF, JA, BN etc and sent him the list and loads of info about the 4 Cs and diamond shopping online. And he did the rest. And he did great. He picked my favorite setting and a stunning rock. ๐Ÿ˜ 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

We actually designed my ring together! When he asked what I wanted and I started describing it or showing pictures, he was like “can you just come with me?” ! I obviously, agreed! We did a local jeweler and he was fantastic! I actually didn’t go with a diamond, I did an ice blue sapphire (hence the confusion from my fiance!), and he got in some amazing stones and a bunch of settings for me to try! It actually took about a month of going in once a week or once every 8-10 days to finalize it, then it had to be made. The jeweler finally got in the right color of sapphires (he had 2), and we had 3 bands we were looking at. I would put the bands on and then hold the sapphire over it. The first 2 (white gold) I really liked one, but didn’t like the other, then I tried on the rose gold band and when we held the sapphire over it everyone kind of gasped and was like “that’s it!”. But I let my fiancee pick which stone went in it so he got kind of that last surprise! I also didn’t see it with the side stones yet, so seeing it all together was a big surprise! It was much better than I imagined! 

I thought it was a fantastic experience! It was so much fun! Make sure you don’t even have them put something that it over budget on your finger, be firm! Also bring lots of pictures and try on everything to see what looks best on you! We actually tried all shapes, even thogh I was pretty set on what I wanted, just to be sure! Be open to other styles/designs. Based on the feedback I gave, the jeweler brought out other things that he thought would look good! That’s actually how my friend ended up with her engagement ring! She was giving feedback and the jeweler said, how about this?, it was something she would have never looked at but she loved it! So be open, and give honest feedback to the jeweler, he won’t take offense. 

All in all just have fun!! It is so fun and exciting picking out rings! 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

Not sure what kind of jobs you have but can you go look over lunch sometime? 

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I have an estate ring that I LOVE that I got at ERAGEM. I do happen to live near them, but they mostly do online business, free returns in 60 days and free resizing.  I have a freind who bought from them, then saw something he liked better on their website, and exchanged it before the proposal.

I knew what I wanted in a ring (sapphire with diamond halo).  When I’d go to jewlers to ask about making it, it was always over 4k.  We got my estate one for just over 1k, and I love that it is unique, has a story (even if I don’t know it), did not create demand for another diamond, and is beautiful.

I don’t usually shill for companies, but I really loved my experience (and ring) with eragem. Oh, and when the center stone came loose after a few weeks of wearing it, they fixed it, for free, in about 24 hours!!

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