- 8 years ago
I am a brand-new little French bee in the hive(so please excuse my numerous language mistakes ^^) and need your advice on a ring issue.
I have been dating my SO for nearly three years now and, though we are not immediately ready to take a step forward by getting engaged, we have been casually talking about what we would like/dislike for such an event when the time has come for us to settle down (hopefully sooner than later!).
There is absolutely no taboo at all in our relationship, we speak freely about everything and it would never be a problem for any of us to raise a problem and talk it out if needed.
But our opinions largely differ on the actual organization of this event with, let’s say, a disagreement on the material side of it.
My SO is somebody that one could almost mistake for a Buddhist ascetic… He used to wear the same belt for 10 years and only threw it away (well, I did!) when it was so torn apart that it couldn’t do its job anymore… Same, he wears clothes that mostly were “already in the family” and does not really own much on his own (although he’s got no financial problems, it is simply his own way of living).
I am fine with this in general as I do not need any extravagance to be happy (even if I would like him to be sometimes a little bit more presentable ^^).
But when it comes to engagement and wedding, I have difficulties picturing them as completely devoid of a bit of sparkle…My SO finds e-rings and wedding bands as a total waste of £££ and was so vehement about their “uselessness” that in the end I surrendered and agreed to go completely ringless: no e-ring and no wedding-band (or something very very cheap for the latter).
Same with the ceremony: it would only be a few people with a dinner but no after-party involved.
I know there is nothing wrong with wanting something simple, as we better save up money for other occasions, but I kind of find all this a little… well… too simple.
I was wondering how I could try to add a little bit of bling without appearing too materialistic or too spoilt to him.
Anybody is planning a “simple-looking” (I am at a loss of words to describe it properly) wedding?
Thanks a lot!