- 10 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
So It’s 6:30 and my fiance and I have officially moved me back into my parents house until October 7th ugghh. Let me explain. Last year around this time we moved to our apartment with no jobs, because we had no choice. Until this point we haven’t been able to find anything stable work wise, which lead us to moving out. During our time living together we have been fighting like cats and dogs. Mainly because we moved into our new place with un resloved issues, on top of the stress of not having jobs. Which i know now was not a good idea now.
He’s moving about 45 mins to an hour away from me and my daughter to los angeles,and will only be able to see each other once a week. There are more jobs out there and more oppurtunities, so we thought this would be the better situation. Giving him a chance to get a job and save (since he will be roomating with his friend and only paying half the rent until I move in). And giving us some space and time apart to try again and get it right later.
The only thing that keeps coming to mind is, will he take things seriously living with his friend who i think is a tad bit immature. And how the stress on my side with still trying to find a job where im at which is very hard. Taking care of my 1 yr old daughter, hopping back into school and trying to plan a wedding and him not being understanding the way I think he should be. I have kind of built up a wall where im afraid of planning a wedding right now until I know things are solid (about a month) am I wrong for feeling like this ?
We have had our ups and downs as normal couples do, so i know he wouldnt do anything to intentionally jepordize the relationship. Im starting to think I might be a control freak to the point if I dont know if things will be ok my first intention is to back away. Am I being unfair by not letting him show me before I judge. He keeps telling me this. But for me we were in a LDR before but now things are different. We cant just shoot the breeze now, we have to get serious about stuff. And im just a bit worried about how the dust will settle.But my new goal in life is to get out of my control freak ways. Im trying but some things still bug my brain.
So bee’s please be completely honest with me (but gentle lol ). Am I being unfair? Am I being a Control Freak? Or whatever you think I should do that might help please let me know. I would REALLLYYY!!! love advice right now.