Post # 1
Hi bees! Here i am again… yesterday i wrote a post about DH’s depression…
Dealing with DH's Depression (a bit long)
And i just wanted to vent a bit… see… yesterday he was feeling awful, and everything i already described in my other post, and i ended uo falling into that state of mind too… i was miserable almost the whole day… i felt horrible, i didnt want to.. nothing… he got concerned because of this and i told him how i felt a bit and everything but that didnt help me feel better…
Later we went out to the fair that’s in town and then we went to a party, we had a wonderful time and i forgot everything, until today… because he was feeling bad again and i just let him be and started to work… we were both in the house but he was practicing yoga and i was working.
I was feeling… i dont know, angry i guess and disconected from him, i didnt try to make contact with him (which i try to do when i feel like this) and he didnt try to connect with me either, he told me he wanted to be alone so he wouldnt “infect” me with his mood (which made me moody)
Later he told me he would give me a drive to my dad’s bussiness (where i worked), and i just… were silent most of the time, he kept asking if i was angry or anything… by that time i wasnt but i wanted to be silent.
About 10 minutes ago he asked me what would make me happy and i told him that i just want him to be happy too. I’m a very happy person “by nature” if you will, but these last two days were… not happy for me. I dont even know how im gonna go to bed with him feeling like this, i wanna calm down… i just wanted to tell somebody.
I know im acting like a b*tch… maybe it’s because im on my period… or not… I love my husband with all my heart, but today i was feeling like… bleh
Ever felt disconnected from you SO/FI/DH? How did you cope with it?
Post # 3
We talked it through yesterday and everything is better now 🙂
Post # 4
@Anamagana: Yay! Glad to hear you’re feeling better. My Fiance battles with depression (runs in his family) and we try to go through a list of what he has to be happy about. Then I ask him what he feels like is missing in his life and we try to figure out solutions, but he usually realizes that he isn’t missing anything. Oh and I am WAY worse about talking things through when I’m PMSing, it’s like my brain doesn’t work right lol. I think as long as you keep up your communication, you guys will be fine. Best of luck to you and your man.
Post # 5
Glad to hear you guys worked it out =D
Post # 6
@housebee: thanks! that’s a good tip!
I didnt use to be communicative tbh, because in my family there wasn’t such thing and has caused a lot of pain, but im really trying to open up and tell him my feelings so we can botch work it out 🙂
Post # 7
@Anamagana: I totally feel you, my family is super oppressive and asian lol. It’s taken a long time, and the death of my father, for my mom and I to finally be able to start communicating (we’re still not very good haha).
Post # 8
@Anamagana: I read your other post. Although I havent dealt with depression with my SO, my ex bf developed severe depression after we split. I can’t even tell you how many times he would call me crying and saying he didn’t want to live and nobody understood him… which I can honestly say, I did not understand. Everything I suggested, he shot down. I didn’t know how I could help him. Now, this was also happening when I was starting my relationship with my now SO. So trying to help him with his depression while keeping my SO knowledgable about the situation took it’s toll on me. IT WAS EXHAUSTING. So I can definitely empathize with you there. As far as advice goes, maybe ask him if he would be willing to go to counseling for you. Explain that you think it would help you better understand his feelings. I truely think it would. And you can also learn how to better communicate when you’re feeling disscoected. Please feel free to PM me if you want to chat more and share experiences!