(Closed) Going through this without my mother…Anyone else?

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
689 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

My mom died exactly 2 weeks after I got engaged. Fiance and I went to her house to see her (first time since engagement) and found her unresponsive. She never woke up. Getting married, planning, everything is a little bittersweet. I miss her sooo much, and she was so happy for us. She never got married and it was one of her dreams for me to get married.

Post # 4
4771 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

yeah, actually my date os a day after the anniversary of her passing.  I don’t know if its in bad taste?  But it was a convenient date.  I was skeptical and haven’t really discusses it with anyone…

Post # 7
4771 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Have you thought of honoring your mom during the ceremony?  I’m thinking of having a pic on bouquet and placing it on the front row chair. 

Post # 8
273 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

My Mom passed away 7 years ago and I am having a tiny cross charm with a blue stone in the middle added to my bouquet. It’s my something “blue” and for remembrance of her.

I do understand what you are going through. I can’t tell you it will get better during this process. It is a struggle, but I will say that my Fiance has been a huge help. Maybe this is one of those times you can turn to him for strength.


Post # 10
569 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Yeah, my mom passed away almost 5 years ago. I have an awesome Future Mother-In-Law and several aunts who are very involved and supportive, and I’m so grateful for them, but it’s still hard.

We’re getting married on my mom’s favorite holiday, but other than that, we’re not explicitly honoring her. I don’t want to look at an empty chair on my wedding day and feel sad. I think it’s a nice idea, but it would just make me cry.

Post # 11
7403 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Yep. The end of this Feb. will make it one year. I break out in tears when I try to imagine going thru the day without her. I don’t know what i’m going to do 🙁

Post # 12
2459 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

My wedding was hard firstly because My mum passed away 4 years ago, But to add to that I also didn’t have any family at the wedding at all because My dad passed away 10 years ado (plus I grew up not knowing him or any of his family) my grandparents who helped raised me died 5 and 5.5 years ago, I don’t have siblings and my mum’s brother and sister fell out with my Mum when my Grandparents died and conssequently I haven’t seen them since. 

To honour my Mum and Grandparents I wrote a speech, which essentially what they would have said having given the chance.


Luckily My husbands family is big and fantastic so now I have a family again!

Post # 13
26 posts
  • Wedding: June 2011

My mom passed 9 years ago when I was a senior and my wedding is in June.  Whenever I think of her not being there that day, my heart breaks.  It is definitely going to be an emotional day.  Thankfully I have a great fiance, Maid/Matron of Honor, SIL, brother, aunt, and Future Mother-In-Law.  They have all been great helping plan for the big day.

My dad also passed away – it will be 2 years in Feb.  

To remember them I will be wrapping my bouquet in my mom’s wedding dress and putting charms on it with their pictures.  We will also be placing a memory candle on the alter and the Priest will be saying a few words for them.  I plan on taking the candle to the reception and placing it on a table, possibly with their pictures.

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