(Closed) Going through your SO phone/emails

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Have you ever snooped?



    N/A we are allowed to go through one another's phone/email

    Yes- I found suspicious texts/emails

    Yes- I found nothing suspicious

  • Post # 3
    1555 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I never go through his stuff. However, he totally shares with me, and I send him to look stuff up on my phone, too. We have nothing to hide.

    Post # 5
    1443 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I have never done this; I feel it’s a total invasion of privacy. 

    Post # 6
    956 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I was looking for photos on his computer of us from a wedding we went to (I didn’t ask, but it was innocent) and found some racey photos of an ex. He wasn’t mad at me, but it did lead me to snoop in his phone. I told him later when I saw a message that I didn’t like. Turned out to be nothing and we have an open book policy. 

    Post # 7
    2959 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

    Unless he gave me something to worry about, I never would. And even if I was suspicious I’m not sure I would have the balls. 

    Post # 8
    1130 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    I never go through his stuff like that. If FH has something to share with me, he’ll either just show it to me or tell me where to find it. And if I’m using his computer I don’t snoop through his emails. I have nothing to suspect of him, and that’s an invasion of privacy.

    Post # 9
    2346 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    I did something really bad and snooped to find out when/if he was proposing LOL!!!  I don’t think I’d ever snoop again, he has never given me a reason regarding infidelity or anything regarding other women.

    My ex, on the other hand, is another story.  He gave me every reason in the world to snoop, which I did on the regular and always found something.  Clearly, it didn’t work out!

    If you feel the need to snoop, there’s probably a reason and if there’s a reason, you shouldn’t be with them IMHO!   

    Post # 10
    603 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    We have access to each other’s phones and emails on a daily basis, but we never go through them.He knows not to snoop on my phone and email because he’s scared of finding wedding dress pictures 😛

    Post # 11
    180 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2017

    I voted C. We’re free to use each others phones, which is good enough for me. Its our way of saying I’ve got nothing to hide, and if you see something you’re uncomfortable with let’s talk about it.

    No need for additional snoopage LOL …the minute that changes then I’ll be concerned. So far so good.

    Post # 12
    3400 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Yes, I have.

    My dad was cheated on by every woman he ever loved, and my husband’s best friend cheated on his wife, so I really don’t regret keeping an eye on it.

    I trust him as much as I am humanly able to trust anybody, and he has never given me a reason not to, but I still take a look when I feel the urge. However, he isn’t totally oblivious to that, and he isn’t secretive about his stuff so I don’t think he would really care that much.

    Post # 13
    1475 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

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    @BrideofGroomzilla:  +1

    We share the same computer, a laptop and ipad. We use eachother’s phones on a regular basis. Neither of us have anything to hide.

    Post # 14
    4494 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I never have, but I would if I had strong feelings something was going on and I wouldn’t feel bad about it haha. If he is giving me a reason to question his loyalty then I think its totally fair.

    We use each other’s phones and computers and such, but I’m not going through his texts/emails when I do.

    Post # 15
    7199 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    We pretty much use each other’s phones interchangeably, send and reply to texts for each other while the other is driving and have given each other our email passwords so we could look something up for the other while we’re busy. So yeah…. on occassion I’ve read more than I “needed” to, but no I’ve never found anything suspecious and don’t care if he reads everything because there’s nothing there that he doesn’t already know. 

    Post # 16
    172 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    We look at each other’s texts/emails. He’s just nosy and I HAVE to go through his stuff beacuse he’s too absent minded to tell me about dates or plans so I just read his emails and put things on the calendar/remind him about stuff. There is nothing that’s off limits for us and nothing to hide.

    Over Christmas since I ordered his gift online I did tell him not to check my emaik for a while haha. 

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