- 9 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
My fiance and I are invited to 2 wedding receptions on April 14th. One of them is my friend’s sister (we’ll call her L), and the other one, ironically enough, is my sister’s friend (called K).
I’ve known L for about … 10-12 years, casually. At one point I was very good friends with her sister, but we’ve grown apart recently and I actually had a pretty nasty falling-out with another friend in our “group.” But I’d still like to go to her wedding, and I told her I’d be there last time we talked a few months ago.
K and I went to high school together and she was a year younger than me and we were both in band. We never really talked in school but once her and my sister started hanging out after high school, we got to chit chatting and have discovered we have a lot in common over the past year or two. Even though I don’t hang out with her too much, I feel like she’s a closer friend than L, but NOT closer a friend than L’s sister.
And when she got engaged, I told her I’d be at her wedding, too …
Got all that? Good.
Fast forward to, like, 3 weeks ago when I suddenly realized OH! they’re getting married not only the same month, but the same damn DAY.
L’s reception starts at 4:00 and is about 30 minutes west of my home. K’s reception starts at 4:30 and is about 30 minutes south of my home.
So… what the hell do I do? I’d really like to go to both. K is having a hand fasting ceremony at the beginning of her reception (she was married on the beach a few weeks ago), and L will be married immediately before the reception at a private ceremony. I’d like to see the hand fasting so I though of going there first and cutting out after dinner, then going to L’s reception, obviously arriving too late for dinner.
My question is: is this appropriate etiquette? Should I send them a quick FB message that “hey, I am coming to your wedding but leaving early/arriving late.” Or is that just rude all around?
The thing that makes it even harder is, I feel like I’d have more fun and be more comfortable at K’s wedding, and my fiance would rather spend more time there. Unfortunately I’ll know more people at L’s wedding but it might be awkward b/c most of us have grown apart recently and, like I said, there was the falling-out with one girl and her husband.
Has anybody been in this pickle before???