(Closed) Going to a charity event tonight — what would you wear?

posted 7 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: What would you wear?

    Sweater dress and leggings (with flats)

    Black pants and a blouse (with flats)

    Little black dress (with heels)

    Something else! I'll tell you in my comment...

  • Post # 3
    3370 posts
    Sugar bee

    @MrsEdamame:  Wow, I’m not sure how cocktail attire goes with sneakers? Um, to me that invite says wear whatever the hell you damn well please, except ballgowns.

    Post # 5
    1938 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @MrsEdamame:  My guess would be basically anything goes??? Strange. I like knowing what I should wear. I am in the camp of thinking its better to be overdressed than under dresssed though. 

    Post # 6
    9948 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Wintertime is “Gala Season” when a lot of Charities hold Fundraising Events (Cocktail Parties – Dinners – or Balls)

    The majority of them are dress-up occasions… be that Cocktail Attire or Formal (Black Tie)

    This event may be at at a Science Centre, but it certainly sounds like “it fits” the theme of the season… and Cocktail / Semi Formal Attire would be best

    Sweater Dress & Leggings in my mind ain’t gonna cut it (altho to be sure you’ll probably see others besides yourself who don’t understand the dress code and come under-dressed for the occasion).  My Rule of Tumb is always to aim for the Dress Code, and it is better to be over dressed than under.

    Little Black Dress, or Dress Pants & Sparkly Top is what I’d be reaching for in my closet.

    Hope this helps,


    Post # 7
    666 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    A LBD with some sneakers? Haha. It sounds like you can wear whatever you’re comfortable in as long as it’s not a long ball gown. Do you know any other ladies that are going, even if it’s just one? At least then you’ll have someone to buddy up with if you get it wrong! What’s your husband wearing? 

    Post # 8
    1154 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I would do either a comfortable LBD or dress pants and sparkly top, both with a cute flat instead of a “sneaker”…

    Post # 10
    576 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    The sneakers thing sure makes this hard!

    I think you need to aim for legitimately cocktail attire, that you can also move around in.

    Do you have boots/ankle boots that are both attractive and comfortable? If it were me, I’d be doing a silk top, formal but comfortable black pants, and ankle boots.

    I think a cocktail dress and flats would also fit the bill. Of course flats can be less flattering with a dress than heels, but you can solve that by choosing a dress with a slightly fuller skirt (think 50’s silhouettes) that hits at the knee or a little below.

    Very few women have the body type to feel really confident in an above-the-knee, form-fitting dress and flats I think. Most of my LBD’s really look best with heels.

    A slightly fuller skirt with a longer length would also give you more freedom to move around without restriction and not worry about flashing anyone 🙂

    Post # 11
    1643 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    @MrsEdamame:  I’d wear a dress with ballet pumps, or flat boots or something.  That invite IS confusing

    Post # 12
    839 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @MrsEdamame:  It sucks that your host was so unhelpful, a fancy suit and sneakers? Talk about conflicting! I agree with pps that a little black dress with some nice flats is probably the best choice. It’s formal enough that you won’t be embarassed if everyone else is in cocktail attire, but laid back enough that you’ll still be able to particiate in the activities.

    Post # 13
    892 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I think your initial sweater dress will be fine. We host an annual fundraiser for my work and people show up in a nice pant suit to jeans and a ball cap. We kind of frown upon the jeans but meh. Nobody says anything. Most people wear what we term “California Casual”…whatever the heck that means.

    Something comfy that looks nice. Sounds like you’ve already nailed it 🙂 Do you perhaps have a nicer looking coat to go over it?

    Post # 14
    5152 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Do you have a little black dress that you can wear some type of flat/tight with? Then throw a colored cardigan over it to make it a bit more “casual”? 

    That response is confusing! Dress and sneakers…um…what?! 

    Post # 15
    919 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I would definitely skip the sneakers and wear some cute flats or something practical. And I think a sweater dress and leggings would be fine.

    Honestly, the visual I got from cocktail attire with sneakers was hideous.

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