(Closed) Going to a wedding as my boy's +1!

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
2379 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

A nice summer dress should be fine, I’d personally bring a cardigan in case it gets chilly though.  Nothing too tight or too short and you’ll be good to go.  I’d probably wear flats if it’s going to be in a field. 

Don’t stress too much, just be social and be nice 🙂  It’s a good way to meet his friends, and see what they’re like.  You’ll be left to your own devices for dinner, but for the dancing and all that, you’ll be with him.

Post # 5
338 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think it’ll be semi awkward, but just because it’s in the newish stage and I’m assuming you don’t know many people, but I would expect it to only be like that at first and then you’ll settle in. I would think it’s a decently good sign that he’s asked you to be his date, so I’d take that as a good sign, but I wouldn’t pay too much attention to how he introduces you. If he says “this is my girlfriend” be happy, if he says “this is my friend” I wouldn’t worry since the label has yet to be established. If you get along well with his friends then that bodes well for the future, so make the most of it and don’t overthink it 🙂

Post # 7
1847 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@sweetgirl1234:  You’ll be left to your own devices for the day leading up to the wedding and during pictures. Maybe you can mingle during cocktail hour, or if your not comfortable you could probably take off after the ceremony and come back for dinner. Personally I’d stay and socialize during cocktail hour (presuming there is one). 

Did he just invite you a couple days ago to the wedding? 


Anyway, weddings are super fun.. You should have a blast! Let us know!

Post # 8
849 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@sweetgirl1234:  My BF is one of the groomsmen for a wedding we are going to next month and I am his date for the wedding. For pictures and things like that, I will just be by myself. During pictures, I will probably just sit in the pews and watch. At the reception, I will probably be sitting next to people I don’t know and basically fending for myself while BF handles his groomsman duties. 


It’ll be a little awkward but don’t worry, your date won’t have to do his groomsman thing ALL night! You’ll have fun, with or without him. Who doesn’t love weddings? They’re always fun and/or entertaining 🙂


Post # 11
630 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

You’ll have some time fending for yourself but there will be PLENTY of time with your guy!

Consider the time at dinner a great time to get to know some of his friends girlfriends… if you two make a go of things, they might be people you’ll be spending time with occasionally! Even if you don’t… you might make a new friend or two!


Post # 13
289 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Your boy sounds like a douche nozzle. He’s emotionally immature and a poor communicator. I don’t know why, as a society, we hold men to such low standards. Give yourself until your 30s – you’ll stop being willing to put up with any and all BS.

Post # 14
1847 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Bunny, I’m sorry you’re sad.. But you’re not committed to anything here,, run for thills and save yourself years of pain. 

Post # 15
4778 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999



+1 to btoh of you.


Don’t go.  What the hell was that?  You deserve respect and that is not given to you.

Post # 16
9956 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

TO @sweetgirl1234:  You sound like a “sweet girl”… so I was reading this post from the beginning with much joy & optomism for you (and this relationship).  Honestly the Wedding sounded like it was going to be fun…

And as a resident “Etiquette Snob” here on WBee was all set to give you some great info on what to expect regarding this event…

Then I realized that of course that you were writing on Thursday & Friday… and the Wedding was actually today (Saturday).

But I kept reading…

That is when I got to the bit about the Drunk & Dial Phone Call… and is innappropriate means of talking to you… RUDE and not respectful.  And how you revealed he has a “Drinking Problem” ** … and my heart sunk.

** Drinking Problem as in… drinks too much.  Blacks Out / Passes Out.  Get Dehydrated… Afraid they’ll die in their sleep / ends up in the Hospital… kind of Drinking Problem.

Honest hon, this all sounds waaaay too familiar to me.  As I was married to an Abusive Alcoholic for over 20 Years.

What starts out at binge drinking (not drinking every day… but excessive amounts on weekends, out with the guys etc) can spiral into a serious life-threatening problem…

This is H3LL for the Drinker (“Why did I do that”) and H3LL for their loved ones… in that you cannot save them (or protect them from the alcohol or themselves)

Loving someone with such a serious “Drinking Problem” is not fun… it is heartbreaking.  And such a series of pain and headaches…

Of course if it was continual bad… most of us would be gone early on.  But it isn’t.  In between the binges can be wonderful moments, adventures and loving apologies.

Until the next time.


Save your heart.  Get out now.  Go find someone much much better for you… cause you deserve more.

((( HUGS )))

Hope this helps,

Hopefully you haven’t caved (and forgiven him) and are at this Wedding as his date… but rather out enjoying the day doing something wonderful for yourself.  And will be reading my reply shortly

*fingers crossed*


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