Post # 1
Just signed up after reading this boards for some time. Not yet engaged, so put me on the list because I think I will be a waiting be for a long time!
Both SO and I are a little older and after he moved in almost a year ago it seems there is no “progress”. We’re living like we’re married for decades but there is still something missing on my left hand.
I’m so fed up calling him my boyfriend but he seems to be fine with the whole situation as it is now. Whenever I mention the subject he changes subject or makes comments about me being “old fashioned”.
In fact, I admit that there is no need for a wedding but going to the next stage – proposal/engagement – would be nice or am I asking to much?
Post # 3
Not asking too much at all! If this is the way you would like your relationship to progress, I think you need to sit him down and have a REAL conversation about it.. don’t let him change the subject! If it is important to you, it should be important to him 🙂
Post # 4
If he thinks that marriage is “old fashioned” you might be in for an up hill battle and some severe disappointment.
I think you need to have a talk with him and see exactly how set on that he is. My SO said he wasn’t getting married again but now he’s more excited about the engagement than I am. Sometimes words are just words when you meet the one, but sometimes they are more than that.
You need to let him know how important it is to you, and see where that lands you.
Post # 5
I don’t think you’re asking too much, but it sounds like he’s playing games. I think you should either be ok with living as a married couple without officially being married or stop living together until he proposes/marries you.