Post # 1
My best friend and I have known eachother since we were kids and have always enjoyed ‘planning’ our weddings. She got engaged a year ago, and will be getting married September of this year. I am not engaged, but I am expecting an engagement fall/winter of 2018.
I am the Maid/Matron of Honor in her wedding. Last weekend, I called a radio station and won 4 tickets to a local bridal show for her. It is going to be me, her, her Future Sister-In-Law, and her Future Mother-In-Law going.
Obviously she is the engaged one, and the day will be focused on her, but would it be okay if I collected some information for when I am engaged? I guess I am just wondering how rude/tacky it would be?
Post # 2
I don’t think it’d be rude. I wouldn’t make it about me planning and talking to a bunch of vendors, but I don’t think grabbing business cards and brochures of vendors you like would be tacky at all.
Post # 3
I don’t think it’s rude or tacky, necessarily. You just need to go with the flow and allow the bride to direct the day. It’s one thing if she’s at a vendor and you like the same one… grab a brochure, card, or a sample. Talk to the people at the booth for as long as the bride stays. As soon as the bride is ready to move on, go with her. If she wants to skip a booth you’re interested in, skip it. You can always go to another bridal show when you’re engaged and actually planning your wedding.
Post # 4
akm57 : I think since these tickets are actually yours you should use this day however you want. Don’t pretend you’re actively planning but I don’t see any harm in talking to any vendors your interested in, even if she isnt.
Post # 5
I agree with PP, take a look around, grab brochures, business cards, etc. It may look weird if you are inquiring without actually being engaged yet 🙂
Post # 6
Perfect! I wasnt planning on talking to vendors on my own/pretending that I am engaged… I was just thinking about grabing a few hand outs or something.
Post # 7
Eh, I would wait until you’re engaged. You’re going with your friend to support her and I would focus on that. Plus if you’re not getting engaged for 9+ months you might not even go with those vendors anyways/things might change in that time. I would wait until you’re engaged and then go to a bridal show then.
Post # 8
I don’t see any harm in grabbing prochures. It’s like grabing a holiday prochure. You know you ar enot going to Spain any time soon but it is nice to look. As long as you do it ina subtle way and not “me me me” way:)
Post # 9
I think it is fine. Shadowing her all day while she inquires about only the things she is interested in sounds like a hella boring day otherwise. I pick up brochures when I go with my SO to the outdoor or fishing expos even though I really don’t have any need or care. It’s really not different than any other themed expo or fair.
Post # 10
You can totally grab some brochures and get some ideas. I went to one of those expos before I was engaged and it was really fun – I got a trial hairstyle, some cake, macaron, and cocktail samples, and even ended up winning a raffle for a Mary Kay makeover party where the rep came to my house and did makeovers for me and several girfriends. I knew my Darling Husband and I were going to get married but we weren’t engaged yet, so I didn’t feel guilty about it. I didn’t end up using any of those vendors as we got married in my home state instead of where we live, plus everything was super expensive. Typically the vendors who can afford to be represented at an expo are not the most budget-friendly.
Post # 11
You should enjoy the bridal show how you want. You’re going as a group, but you’re still your own person.
Post # 12
I think your plan sounds fine.
Post # 13
You won the tickets tbh… I don’t see the harm in having a look around for yourself, just be discreet maybe.