(Closed) Going to have to burn somebody

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper

If they’re getting married to each other, can’t you just stand up there in support of both of them? What’s the problem?

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@bestfriend:  are you stressed about what side you choose to stand on?

I think I’m confused.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

I agree with KatyElle. It seems like standing up for them you’d have a chance to be there for each friend . . . not picking sides. I’d relax and just be happy for them and happy that you’ll be an honored and cherished member of the wedding party, regardless of where you stand during the ceremony.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Yeah I’m not getting why this has to be so dramatic/heartbreaking/someone is getting “burned”. Just stand in support of both and be happy for them, pretty simple really.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper

I’m definitely confused as well. I always saw the bridal party as supporting the couple…not an individual.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I agree if they are getting married to each other, then it doesn’t matter as long as you are in the wedding party you are supporting both of them. I think if they are in love and getting married they aren’t going to care what side you stand on.

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I highly doubt they’re that concerned about it.  You’ll be standing up for both of them in spirit, and where you physically stand will probably come down to just evening up the sides or which outifit they want you to wear or whatever.  Don’t worry, I’m sure this isn’t heart breaking for either of them 🙂

I tend to think about this situation like the fact that I had DH’s sister as a bridesmaid.  The fact that she was standing on my side definitely didn’t mean that she was snubbing her brother; she just preferred to be a bridesmaid than a groomswoman.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I agree with @KatyElle!  I think it would be really great for you to stand up for both.   

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper

could you instead of standing up for one of them… marry them instead? as in, get ordained 

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@SapphireSun:  I’m inclined to agree with this.  They’re probably happy that you’ll be up there for the two of them regardless of what side you’ll be standing on.

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