Post # 1
Hey Bees, I’m going to look at venues this Friday and Saturday and I need your help. First off, as many of you know, I am still a waiting Bee. My SO and I are not “officially” engaged. We have looked at rings, we know we are going to get married, and he is waiting for the perfect moment to propose. Do you think this is going to change things with the venues? Should I say my ring is being re-sized or cleaned or something or should I just be honest?
Beyond that, what should I ask? Is there anything you wish you had known beforehand? If the venue you chose forces you to use their caterer, did they include a tasting in the tour or did that have to come later?
Post # 5
I have some advice. DO NOT use a venue that will not let you use your own caterer!
Those places do not know how to cook at all.
Unless you are using a restaurant, which I would most definitely recommend! We had a small reception at a restaurant and there was NO stress. I used a hall after for an at home reception. It was too much stress, and cost a lot! Worrying about renting plates, silverware, linens, etc…………. If I could give any advice it would be to have it a restauarnt if you could.
Post # 6
It shouldnt matter to them, they want your $$$ have you set a date?
Post # 7
@Carolyn72: Thanks, I’m kind of worried about that too, but I am definately going to bring that up. Food is such a big part of who we are, so I know it is really important for us to have GREAT food at our wedding.
@AChessher: Yep! October 26th. 2013
Post # 8
make sure they have contracts that outline what you both agree to, (including prices). The first place i went to continually added costs as we were speaking and when i asked for actual figures they couldnt give me any in writting and just kept saying “you havent told us what you want yet” even though id spent the last hour specifically saying what i wanted. These ppl were out to rip me off big time. And they would say one thing then change their minds and add more money to what they had first said.
Also make sure you know about when you get to set up. Can you go in the day before or the morning before to get it all done?
is it an outdoor venue? what are your indoor or bad weather options?
ask if there are any other weddings on that day? will it interfere with yours?
also are you allowed to have sparklers, rice, confetti, or bubbles. Some dont allow any of these, but you still have the option of wands. (sparklers are a fire hzzard, rice attracts birds and other pests, confetti is hard to clean and bubbles can leave a slippery film on the ground.)
also google what to ask when hiring a venue.
Post # 9
I asked about this a week ago or so, and some people gave me some good advice:
Looking at venues- advice needed!!!
Post # 10
@mrsrangrang: Thank you so much!
Post # 13
oh also find out who is responsible for cleaning the venue after you use it. sometimes it is your responsibility and they can charge you extra if they have to clean up and you didnt know about it..
Post # 14
I toured a LOT of venues (we’re talking about 30). I was never asked about my ring. The most commonly asked questions are 1) When are you getting married (the date); and 2) How many guests?
If you plan on looking at a bunch of venues, make sure you get their packages (included items and prices) in writing so that you can go home later and enter them all into a spreadsheet. I found that was helpful to make comparisons.
My Mom also brought a camera and took pictures so that we could remember specifics. Trust me, things tend to blend together after you see a bunch of places.