(Closed) Going to Mexico in 2 weeks…is he going to propose?!?!

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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336 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

So I typed up something really long and then it deleted it. so here I go again:

If I had a dollar for everytime someone told me my SO was going to propose on vacation, I would have some really awesome new luggage. We’ve been datinbg for 7 years and have been on about 5 trips together. People make it like they know something or that they are hinting but honestly, they probably know nothing. Maybe your friends do but I doubt it. But I don’t know.

What you need to do is quit nagging him and just let it go. TRUST ME. I was the biggest nagger of all for awhile there. Mentioning it everyday. Guess what? MY SO and I argued so much about it because he felt pressured and men don’t want to feel pressured – they want the idea to be their own. They want to do it on their terms and on their playing field. Trust me – I too am a planner. But what my SO told me during our last and final arguement before I officially shut it up 2 months ago was that ” I know you love to plan but you can’t plan everything in life! You can’t plan when I am going to propose to you. I know you want to control it but you can’t. So you need to let it go” He was feeling the pressure big time from me.

Don’t be anxious on your vacation, don’t be disappointed and the biggest thing is don’t expect anything. If you go in with all these grand expectations, you will be disappointed. TRUST ME, I have been. You need to relax. You need to have fun and biggest thing is you need to let go. It’s hard at first – ask the ladies who are part of the shut it up pact. But it gets easier. It truly does.

Post # 4
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152 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I say enjoy your trip and don’t worry about the rest. My FI proposed on our vacay to Mexico  I had a feeling he would do it then but didn’t say anything because I didn’t want to ruin the surprise, he proposed with a stand in ring because taking an expensive ring to Mexico is a risk. He didnt prep and did it on our last night there. 

If you let the proposal consume you it will ruin the trip.  Focus on being in a beautiful place with the man you love. My trip to Mexico was the best time of my life, regardless if he proposed or not. 

Post # 5
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353 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Let it go and go on your trip expecting him not to, or you’re going to make yourself crazy. Like a pp, it got to the point where if he and I did anything alone together, friends and family would comment on this being “really it this time!!?!?!”. They were always wrong. 

Just try not to think about it and enjoy your vacation!! You don’t want to end up arguing about it or ruining a surprise.

Post # 6
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5065 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

Like pp have said, I would be so excited to go to Mexico and just enjoy your holiday. If it happens then fabulous, if not still an amazing time away.

Post # 7
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751 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

My friends actually have bets on when my SO will propose.

Basically everytime he does anything special for me everyone starts hinting he’s doing it because he wants to propose.

The first few time I got all excited (and then dissapointed) so my best advice is enjoy your holiday or anything you do together and don’t think about it!

Also about the ring, maybe he’s not planning to propose with a ring, lots of men don’t they’d rather you picked it. Or maybe he wants you to have a family ring.

So I would just relax about it, it will make him even more convinced about doing it!

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