(Closed) Going to open a can of etiquette worms!

posted 3 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 61
Member
1981 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK

mcmeow :  Yeah it’s the norm to pay for drinks after the wine, champagne etc so I don’t need to ask. I don’t come on the bee and say it’s tacky AF to make bridesmaids pay for their dresses in the US because I know that’s the norm there.

Post # 62
Member
2331 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

We didn’t have a registry or include anything in the invitation.

99.9% of our guests brough us monetary gifts and the rest gave us stuff for the house that they liked or wanted to buy.

Better to say nothing. 

Post # 63
Member
1981 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK

mcmeow :  nice edit 😉

Post # 64
Member
4505 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Here’s the thing — people are going to get you waht they want to get you. No matter what. 

Older, traditional relatives are going to buy you that vase they saw and that you did not register for because, darn it, that’s what they always give at weddings!

And your guy friend from college is going to give you 100 bucks and call it a day. 

My point is — people have their go-to gifts. Some folks just do. not. give. money. And some never give anything else. No insert, registry, or website is really going to change that. 

So… say nothing. 

And, if you DO say something, please don’t refer a monetary gift a “donation.” Just call it a “gift.”

Post # 65
Member
1148 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

EllyAnne :   I left a note about it so it’s not like I was trying to be sneaky, you clever little thing

The topic ‘Going to open a can of etiquette worms!’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors