(Closed) Going to the movies alone???

• misskate18
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: April 2017

llevinso :  I did it all the time when I was single and I’ve done it occasionally while in a relationship, if nobody else wanted to see it and I couldn’t download it. It’s great fun!

• LaPetiote
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: August 2013

I never did it in England because I feel that there the cinema is a place for groups and families, more of an event. When I lived in Paris though, I went at least once a week and usually alone. It’s very common there and I never felt weird about it, except on a Saturday night maybe. 

• shortbread654
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: September 2017

Admittedly since I work in film going to the movies is pretty much an extension of work for me, but I’ve been doing it for ages and totally forgot that people might find it weird! Honestly go, and I promise one thing will definitely happen (your first time, at least): you will notice plenty of people at the theater alone. When you’re with others you don’t really pay attention, but when you’re alone you can be a bit more observant. Totally normal. Go enjoy your movies!,;

• c0mealongpond
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: April 2017 - backyard

I started going to the movies alone when I couldn’t get a group of friends to agree on when to see the final Harry Potter movie. It felt really weird but it’s dark in the theater and no one cares if you’re there by yourself 🙂 Enjoy those oscar movies! 

• pawneegoddess
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: August 2019

Going to the movies alone is a TREAT! All the snacks to yourself and you can see absolutely whatever you want with no compromise. I love it. Don’t be afraid to do it, it’s liberating to hang out with yourself!

• shannon2015
• 4 years ago

llevinso :  I did go to restaurant and movie sometime by myself! well, sometimes we need to enjoy ourself and need our own time to grow our own interest and make ourself knowledgable!  I know sometimes we think it sounds weird that after married we should do together not separately. But this is not true. We still have right to enjoy ourself.

• milena
• 4 years ago

 llevinso :  I will definitely go to the movies alone and know a lot of other people who do as well. It’s really not a big deal, and everyone else is too wrapped up in the movie and their own thoughts to even notice you. You’re basically sitting in a dark room and focusing on the movie…then you leave. No one is going to know or care whether you are there by yourself. I like discussing movies with someone, though, so I’ll still do that with my SO when I get home. 😛

KoiKove :  I have a completely different thought process about this…

I want to see a movie that DH doesn’t, so let me go to the theater without him–

I buy a ticket for just one person–ticket person thinks “awww, poor llevinso, all alone. she must be a loser.”–There’s no way for them to know whether you’re going alone or just got separated from your group, and usually when people go see movies with friends they buy their own tickets (and in the case of my friends, don’t all arrive at the same time)

Buy popcon for just me–consession stand person thinks “awww, poor llevinso, all alone, no one must love her”–Again, when I go meet friends, not everyone buys concessions (maybe they’re don’t really want them, maybe they brought snacks from home, etc), so there isn’t a basis for the concession person to assume this

Go sit in a seat by yourself, other people in the theater see you alone, “awww, poor llevinso, she must smell really bad if no one will go to the movies with her”–You’re sitting in a dimly lit room, even before the movie starts, and other people probably don’t notice you at all (they’re with their SO/friends or if they’re by themselves they might be self-conscious as well…and in either case they’re most likely too wrapped up in their own lives to think about the stranger who is sitting across the way)

Meanwhile you are thinking–“I have a DH at home who loves me. I’m not a loser–look how empowered and confident I am by seeing a movie by myself. ” (and I can’t attest to your smell, but I’m going to assume you shower LOL) AND–you get to pick the seat YOU want, and eat ALL the popcorn, and you don’t have to worry if DH is enjoying himself AND–even if everyone you see thinks horrible thoughts abbout you, WHO CARES?–LOL, I totally agree with the fact that doing things on your own like going to the movies can be empowering and enjoyable. I just don’t think that anyone is thinking horrible thoughts about anyone 🙂 , but yeah even in that worst case scenario you’re right…who cares?

 

• mimivac
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: October 2018

I’m a pretty social person, but not only do I go to the movies alone, but I go to bars and restaurants alone,too. Never had any weird looks or anything. I thought it was normal!

• KoiKove
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: October 2010

milena :  I totally agree with you that most people do not pay attention to you are alone…or ever. That thing that makes you totally concerned…that you twist yourself to not put yourself into a position to ever possible do…yeah, no one is paying attention. But for people that are anxious about something. You have to walk them through the worst case scenario—that everyone is totally focused on them (which they aren’t). Once they realize that even if everyone is focused on them, that they will survive whatever horribly embarrassing thing that happens to them, they can relax. 

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/fighting-fear/201307/dont-be-embarrassed-nobody-is-paying-attention 

• NinjaBee
• 4 years ago

llevinso :  Nothing wrong with going to the cinema alone…more popcorn for me!  I do it all the time, my husband of 22years have always had different tastes in film.

• Carolsays
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: June 2013

I do it. Even when we go together we sometimes head to separate movies. In addition, even when we see the same movie, I have to go up high to avoid neck pain I would feel if I sat in the handicapped section with him. So it must appear to everyone that we are both alone.

• KoiKove
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: October 2010

llevinso :  Even if they noticed, I’m sure they didn’t care. If you asked them 10 mins after they left the theater, I’m sure they wouldn’t have even remember that there was a lady there all by herself.