- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2019
I have mentioned on a few threads about my SO and his mental health issues. Tomorrow we are going to a mental health tribunal were he will be faced with a panal of mental health nurses/doctors etc.
He has to state why he thinks he does not need his medication or if he does have to be on medication for the rest of his life if they can switch to a medication which has less physical side effects.
I am going with him as support and I can ask questions which are relevant about his case and I can understand what is going on with him and what the mental health board think of what is right for him.
Today I asked if his mother will be coming. He replied:
“She isn’t coming because she has a meeting for the town’s seasonal festival to attend.”
What the… the town festival isn’t on till the end of the year. I was both shocked and disgusted that his own mother isn’t coming with us for support. A stupid town festival is more important to her then her own child’s mental health review.
Guys I feel like I am the one that really cares for my SO, when he first went to the mental health facility (because of a fight with his mother) only four people came to see him, a cousin, his father, my mother and I. He spent two months in that hospital. I rang him every day just to tell him I was thinking of him.
Last year after SO went into a full blown psychosis, he was sent to a different hospital. His mother was mouthing off that I was the root of SO being mentally ill, apparently he wasn’t like that before he met me. Which is total bull. The first time I met him, he was talking delluisonal. It got back to my mother, which she and her friend both said to the woman who informed them, that it wasn’t true.
With my SO in hospital we talked again almost daily. His father actually visited him in hospital every forenight while he stayed at hospital. His mother only visited once. I couldn’t go at the time as this hospital was four hours away.
I also take SO to alternative threapies such as Reiki to at least help him.
Sorry for going on like this but I am a bit upset to think his mother would rather go to a ridiculous meeting for a town festival instead of going to support her own son and his mental well being.
Yes he is in his late 30s and can go by himself but wouldn’t you think as a parent you want to know what is going on and to support a love one who suffers from any sickness?
If this was her other son in this situation she would be going with him. Seeking any help she can. When her other son was in an accident, she was with her son for most of his appointments while he was getting better.
It just hurts to know that his mother doesn’t want to feel or give the same effort to SO as she did to the other son.