Post # 1
Hi Hive! (sort of long)
So my fiance is very into getting married…but not so into caring much about the details of the decor etc. (typical guy!!). However, one thing that he said that he would really like to have are goldfish or beta fish on the table. Now at first I was like heck no but I feel bad because he doesn’t ask for much and if this is one of the only things he cares about I feel like I should try to make it work somehow.
Our colors are teals, blues, and greens for our outdoor Sept. wedding and I think having a blue beta fish would actually look kind of neat on the table and it would go with our outdoor naturey theme. However, I have a few concerns…
1. What if the fish dies during the reception?!?!
2. Is having a fish on the table unappetizing?
3. (Selfishly) It might not "go" with the centerpiece feel that I was envisioning – using cut glass vases of all shapes and sizes like the ones in the second picture and filling them with single or just a few flower stems.
Do you have any idea of how I could make this fish idea work or should I just put my foot down and say Sorry honey!. I’m open to any suggestions…
Thank you 🙂
Post # 3
We did that for a sorority formal once and while it was stunning it was a pain in the ass to lug huge buckets of fish and water around to set up. Then, if a fish dies and is floating belly up…not so good. And then you have find people who want to take them home unless you want lots of fish yourself.
Post # 4
It sounds cool but that it also might be a total pain to pull off.
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
I think it’s a really cool looking idea, but not so practical (pain in the butt to set up, I’m sure), and I’d be TERRIFIED of having dead fish on the table. I think I remember hearing that Beta fish are a little finicky about their water, too, so you’d have to have them set up in their centerpieces well ahead of time if you want to make sure they stay alive all night.
And just on a personal note, I have a little bit of a fish phobia. 😉 If you have any guests like me, they probably won’t appreciate a fish in the centerpiece!
Post # 6
I would also offer up that if you have children at the wedding, it’s not such a great idea. Sometimes kids will try to "catch" the fish or do other things (poke it with sticks, take it out of water, etc…) to it that can be downright mean and inhumane. Kids don’t always know and parents don’t always supervise correctly.
Post # 7
I think it’s an interesting idea but the logistics would be a pain. Also, what if people didn’t take them home? Don’t beta fish eat each other if you put them in the same tank? You’d have to take them home and keep them in seperate tanks.
Maybe you could work them into the decor in another way, like on the card/gift table.
Post # 8
It might look different, but I think it would be too much of a pain to pull off. Also, what do you do with the fish who survive the night? What if no one takes them home? I know they’re only fish, but they are living creatures and deserve to be treated with respect, IMO. Also, I definitely think that having a dead fish on the table (unless it’s dinner!) is relatively unappetizing.
FWIW, I love your other idea with the different vases. I’ve seen this done before and it was stunning.
Post # 9
I agree that it would look pretty, but what are you going to do with the fish afterward?
Post # 10
We had goldfish centre peices for my prom and it was great :). It looked really cool… wasn’t a pain to set up at all, (you just have to pick up the fish that morning). And one of the girls on the committee took them home and put them in her aquarium. I think it’s neat!
Post # 11
As someone who has worked with animals (at a pet store and the zoo) for several years, I would like to (politely ) mention that this is considered cruel to the fish. Goldfish, contrary to popular belief, are not intended to live in bowls. Their ‘waste’ is so potent it pollutes water in such a small space, and they don’t live very long because they end up poisoned – unless they live in a larger tank with a filter. Plus, they grow excessively fast.
Betas can live in smaller tanks, but even ‘beta bowls’ aren’t recommended. They should have at least a gallon – filtered, preferably. (And yes, they will kill each other if in the same tank).
Unfortunately, most of these centerpiece fish end up dying, or being taken home by someone who doesn’t know any better… and dying anyway. It could be due to stress, improper water PH, etc.
We had a few people come into the store I worked at, wanting to do this, and they didn’t really want to after we explained it.
Not that I want to be a Debbie Downer – it just seems like this is a popular idea, and yet most people don’t realize how horrible this is for the fish
Alternatively, you could do a water centerpiece with the pretty rocks/marbles, and the fish don’t even have to be in them! You could add floating candles, submerged flowers, or whatever you want. There’s no reason you have to give up the visual idea of the ‘fish bowl’. In fact – one of the Pros just posted about submerged flowers recently!
Post # 12
I like the idea! I think it would be reall pretty and sort of exotic and look really pretty with your colors. Especially if it’s one of the only things that’s important to him. (My almost Mr. is the same way only one thing he wants: bobble head cake toppers that look like us, sigh* you sort of got off easy 😉 There’s a CHANCE the fish might die..but there’s a higher chance that they won’t. It’s your (plural) day, if he really wants it and you’re not opposed to it, I think most people will appreciate the unique beauty of it, and for those that don’t they could simply avoid staring at the centerpieces!
Also, I don’t think it would be too much harder to lug water around to fill fish bowls then it would be to lug water around to fill up all the little glasses you want in the other centerpiece. Maybe you could even put your 2 ideas together, find a taller glass that fits in with the other one’s you like and put the fish in there, then you’re both happy!
Good luck and have fun and enjoy whatever you choose!!
Post # 13
Wow thank you for all the responses so far!
I think all of you mentioned a concern that I have also thought of – what do we do with the fish afterwards? We definitely don’t want to flush them (because that’s just horrible) but I don’t to count on people taking them home afterwards.
Plus, I’m not a huge fan of keeping a fish in a tiny glass or bowl on the table…I feel like they’ll be too cramped and unhappy.
Maybe we’ll have 1 beta fish in a bowl on our head table along with the other centerpieces and then I’ll just tell my Fiance that we’ll have to keep our new beta fish pet after the wedding!
Jessie516 – Thank you! I’m so excited to use these vases I’ve been collecting. Most of them I’ve picked up at my local thrift store for 99 cents each – can’t beat that!
Marigold – Like you, my fiance’s aunt has a terrible fish/sea creature phobia so I bet she would have a reeeeally hard time sitting at the table!
Thanks again 🙂
Post # 14
Just wanted to add experience on here — my brother did this for his engagement party — it was really cool and looked awesome…. but till this day we always remember the fish that died during the party! 🙁 a lot of them died while people were eating dinner! and after. It was sad and that after they didn’t know what to do with the fish. I know he kept one or two and they lived a long time with him, but most died.
It does look really cool and is a unique idea, but it has downfalls. As for set up? I don’t remember it being that hard. You just buy the fish right before, and bring them in. You can fill the water at the place you’re holding your reception.
Post # 15
I did this once, and many died before the party was over
Post # 16
I just worry about the welfare of the fish..these kind are pets!
I had a betta in college..fed it by hand and he lived 4 years..I loved that little dude. He was a pet..NOT my decor.