Post # 1
I don’t want to talk about dollar amounts because it is all relative.
It doesn’t matter if it’s a diamond or gemstone, $50 or $50,000 sometimes guys have no idea the true cost, or they don’t think its worth it or even make bad financial choices to get one.
So I have seen all sorts of post that I understand.
Some girls have a guy who spends XXXX on a toy for himself one month but then only XXX on a ring saying “its just a hunk of rock” ect the next and the girl feels hurt (understandably) by his lack of sensitivity or understanding on how important it is to her.
On the other side I have read about guys who wiped out savings or went into debt to get a ring. With a girl upset that he made such bad financial choices to get it.
Some are blessed to inherit a stone or ring, and some it all works out and they are happy with the amount spent.
Should he have spent more on your ring? (ie you wanted him to spend more but he didn’t, not just that he could have spent more)
Did he spend too much? (wipe out a hunk of savings, go into debt or spend more than you thought was necessary on a ring)
Did he get it just right? (you are happy with the amount spent on the ring)
FREE BEE BLESSED! (you luck girl lol)
Post # 3
I was really proud of him – my FI is SO responsible when it comes to money and he really stayed within his means for my ring….which wasn’t a lot but it wasn’t exactly peanuts. He won’t tell me the final cost but I’m guessing it was in the $2200-$2500 range.
Post # 4
My mom gave him her ring after she and my dad divorced. He sold the gold and she wanted the little diamomds for a bracelet but the center stone he used in my ring. Its waaaayyyyy bigger than anything I ever would have gotten otherwise and I am very grateful for it. I love love love my ring. Its perfect and he spent about $1200 on the setting. Then I had the wrap custom made for it. It was $1500. Considering my ring appraised at just under $7k and he spent $2700 I say score.
Post # 5
@NEAM2014: we talked about the ring and how much we were comfortable spending on it to get what I wanted. We also shopped together and shared in every step.
I think we spent more than necessary, but only because diamonds are stupidly expensive.
Post # 6
NICE! I love drama free stories of it all working out haha
Now that i have the poll up I’m really wondering how many bee’s got free stones/rings. It seems like reading the boards that so many do I’m curious how common it is.
Post # 7
We talked about things like a budget and what we were both comfortable spending. He could have afforded a diamond, but it would have required him saving a lot longer and it just wasn’t that important to me to get a diamond. When I discovered moissanite, we researched it, selected a website we wanted to purchase from, and then he adjusted his budget accordingly. I think for what we got, he got it just right. Hell, this ring is so pretty it looks like he should have spent MORE than he did. I feel very blessed to have gotten such a lovely piece of jewelry.
Post # 8
@NEAM2014: FI got it juuuust right! He did get me two rings (to be fair, it was either we get a new one, put up with my nickel allergy or forget having a ring, and he wanted me to have a ring!)
I’m extremely pleased with my ring, but I would have agreed to just his word 😉
Post # 9
@NEAM2014: My SO and I designed our own ring, and went with 100% moissanite. He was more than willing to spend thousands on a diamond ring, but personally I liked moissanite more and he wasn’t complaining! I also like the idea of not starting our “future” together in debt. The cost of the ring is very practical, and like he said… it wont be hard to pay for with all the plowing he’s been doing, thanks to the wonderful Minnesota winter we’re having!
Post # 10
I originally didn’t care if we got a ring, but he was very insistent (and I understand why- he would have come under criticism from some quarters if he hadn’t). We disussed it and he refused to give me a budget, but we have nearly identical incomes, transparent finances, and similar values when it comes to money, so I picked out a ring set in a price I thought was reasonable (considering that it’s effectively already “our” money and actually officially going to be “our” money soon) that I loved and he paid for it without a flinch.
Post # 11
@NEAM2014: I didnt vote because I want to pick 2! I adore my ring but I feel he spent too much he almost doubled the stone size! (I asked for a .25-.50max he bought a .75!). But on the other hand he spent only what he saved and bugeted so its also kind of just right!
Post # 12
@NEAM2014: I have no idea what FI payed for my ring…but I love it. I told him I would have been happy with a plain band…that its the point that’s important to me…not the size or the sparkle. Of course sparkle is always good, but you know what i mean 😉
Post # 13
@NEAM2014: cute title, was thinking “what in the world are goldilock rings”?!!!LOL
My dh got it just right. Great considering he did it on his own without me.:-)
side bar: I am not surprised your poll is leaning heavily to: “just right” as so many pick out/help pay for their own erings or give exacting instructions! Hopefully if you’re driving the train, you’ll get it right LOL
Post # 14
My FI refused to let me help pay for the ring or pick it out with him… He felt it was his “job”. We did go once together to look around so he could see what I liked, and we happened to find the setting (yg with yg prongs) that we both loved but he went on his own to pick the stone and all that went with it (color/shape/size/cut/clarity).