Post # 1
My FI has a regular golf league every Monday, that goes from about 4pm until evening. Yesterday we were with all of his family when he mentioned that he would be going to golf league, the day after our wedding (on a Sunday). I didn’t really have a chance to process this before his family expressed their opposition. His mom kept shaking her head no, and his uncle said “I hope this you have a really good golf game, because you’ll be paying for it the rest of your life.” I found it kind of humorous, but found myself jumping on the bandwagon, that he couldn’t seriously be considering leaving to go golf the day after. (We’re not leaving for our honeymoon for a few months). We don’t really have plans the day after, I just assume family will still be hanging around and we’ll want to relax. Would you mind?
Post # 3
I would mind because its like the day after your wedding.
It just depends on how you feel about it. If you really don’t mind then let him go or see if you can go with him.
My hubby better stay with me because the day after we should spend together practicing to make babies lol
Post # 4
If we weren’t planning to do something and had talked about it before a decision was made, I wouldn’t mind. But then again, my husband was playing golf the morning of our wedding so my opinion may be a little out of the norm…
What I wouldn’t like is that he didn’t even think to run it by you first.
Post # 5
I don’t think I would mind! Are you both taking time off after the wedding – will you be able to spend the day together before golf?
Post # 6
I had to refrain from just writing yes and nothing else here, because I would mind A LOT. 🙂 My fiance, for example, goes hunting every single October. See my wedding date? It’s in hunting season. Is he going this year? HECK NO!
I get that guys are on leagues and play sports, etc – but to skip it one time for this occasion is not a big deal. And if his family backed you up before you even said anything? There’s a clue for you right there.
Post # 7
I don’t think it would really bother me if you guys weren’t really planning on doing anything else.
Post # 8
My honeymoon is part a fishing trip, and I don’t fish, so I’m not the type that would mind.
If you need him to help entertain guests still in town, but otherwise, talk to him and reach a decision together.
Post # 9
I would surely mind! If you aren’t honeymooning for a few months I think it’d be more important to treat that day specially, just have some down alone time after all of the family has left. I’m sure if you just talk to him alone and explain your feelings about this he will come around. Maybe he’ll come to reason when it’s just one on one? Men…ugh! haha Best of luck!
Post # 10
Thanks ladies! It’s interesting to get others perspectives on this. I am sort of on the fence; perhaps as it gets closer I’ll know more how I will feel. Maybe just play it by ear the day of. He’ll be willing to give up on it if I don’t want him to go, but at the same time, if nothing is going on maybe I won’t mind. Thanks!
Post # 11
I asked my FI (who loves golf as well) and this was his response: “Unless he’s on the PGA tour and has a tourny coming up, there’s no excuse.” lol there you have it – from the point of view of another man
Yes, I would definitely mind – we are freakin’ newlyweds for heaven’s sake!!! I’m totally with Mrs. MedinaJr that the only thing I want him thinking about the day after is relaxing with me and practicing making babies lol.
Even if you can’t honeymoon immediately afterwards, I would definitely plan a minimoon or getaway, just the two of you together. Whether it’s locking yourself up in your house alone or going to a hotel just an hour away – get away from normal life. After the craziness of the wedding, you will both deserve a break to enjoy in your newfound promise to each other
Post # 12
Qui40067 – HAHA! Good perspective. As competitive as he is, this is NOT the PGA tour and there are not millions of dollars at stake. I mean yeah! It’s the day after our WEDDING! What am I thinking? He’s totally staying with me!
Post # 13
I wouldn’t mind at all, but then again I come from a family of avid golfers. The day of the wedding it is tradition for all the guys to go golfing. The day after I will be golfing in the afternoon.
Leagues are really different. If you get involved in a league you have made a commitment to be there and practice. If even one member doesn’t show up it can hurt your standing within the league organization and it can even disqualify you from taking parts in some tournaments. Most leagues have alternates just to keep the numbers up, but if his doesn’t have an alternate then it is important for him to play or else he takes down the whole team.
Just my perspective from being a league golfer (not this year obviously). 🙂
Post # 14
I think that every couple/situation is different. In my case, I would have thrown a fit, but we only had several days together until he went back to his duty station. If the situation had been different and like a normal couple we could live together after we got married…..I still probably would have been ticked. I mean, golfing the day after wedding? I’d still want to be basking in the “just got married glow,” and not get jerked back to reality when someone goes back to normal life right away. Maybe 2 days after the wedding, but not the day after the wedding.
Post # 15
We were so tired from the wedding, and still in wedded bliss that we just wanted to be with each other the day after. DH actually had a basketball game to play in, but he skipped it voluntarily. Before the wedding though, he WAS considering playing in that game, which I was not too keen about.