Post # 31
As My mom always says, “Make big problem small, and small problem to none” and “Dont take love for granted. Its like a flower that would die without care and understanding how to grows it.”
Really helped me a lot.
Post # 32
I think the best advice I can give is that not every day is going to be rainbows and daisies. That some days you are going to be downright angry with the other person, but that doesn’t mean you don’t love them. The best thing I was told was “When the anger is no longer clouding you’re judgement, are you going to be ashamed of what you’ve said?” And it’s true, as a couple living together the arguments aren’t a matter of IF it’s WHEN.
I learned that no matter how angry my husband makes me I still can’t live without him, so we stand together in the weakest moments, and remind ourselves that even if we are annoyed we wouldn’t want to be annoyed by anyone else.
Post # 33
THIS! Lack of this killed my first marriage slowly. He was a nice enough guy, and we did a lot of things right, but this part killed me slowly.
Now I’m in a relationship where my SO wants to discuss EVERYTHING! He wants to know what’s going on in my head – good, bad, or otherwise. After my last relationship, I’ve had to learn how to do that again. The best part is, he remembers what I say!
I knew I wasn’t getting that from my ex, and knew it cause a lot of hurt, but having it now makes me realize even more and solidifies it even more that I was right to walk away.
Post # 34
The best advice I got and can give:
Love is an action verb and a choice.
Feeling love isn’t enough for a marriage; you have actively love the other person and show it through your actions and words.
Likewise, you can’t choose who you fall in love with, but you can make the choice every morning to actively love your spouse.
Post # 35
My grandfather, who was married to my grandmother for 65 years when she passed, told Darling Husband and I to “always say good morning and always say goodnight” to each other. Even if we don’t want to, even if we’re too angry. If we can add in an “I love you” all the more better.
I believe that you shouldn’t go to bed angry. That doesn’t mean “stay up arguing all night until you come to a resolution” or “stomp away from each other and refuse to speak to one another.” I think it means exactly as my grandfather suggested. Say good night and work on it in the morning if need be, but don’t stay angry at each other. You may not come to a resolution, but don’t go to sleep seething.