Good books for handling the first trimester after loss?

posted 3 weeks ago in Pregnancy
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

Jon Cohen ‘coming to term’. Very insightful.

‘miracle babies’ by Gilli Moorhawk

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Are you Christian?  If so, I found a very insightful free ebook online called Rainbows and Redemption that I found comforting.  Very heavily Christian-leaning though, basically prayers and stories for every week of pregnancy and pregnancy milestones.

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Bumble bee

zstbee84 :  Something that I found very helpful is an app called “Expectful” – you pay a monthly subscription for it, but it has a lot of guided meditations for pregnancy. It has a lot of them for loss and dealing with grief and learning to trust your body again.

I figured I’d give it a try after my last loss and it’s been honestly really, really great! I was using it to cope after my loss, and now I’m going to sink my teeth into the first trimester meditations. 

Some of the titles are, “Uncertain Moments,” or “Being Present” or “Trusting the body.” 

There’s a free trial when you first get it, so you can test it out and see if you like it before paying!

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Helper bee

I got through first trimester by focusing on other things in my life other than my pregnancy. I didn’t read books about pregnancy or miracle babies, no meditations or podcasts etc. I looked after myself, took my prenatal vitamins and cut out alcohol but apart from that i didn’t dwell on pregnancy at all. No-one but my husband knew I was pregnant. After 1st scan at 12 weeks (which was point I found out i had lost previous pregnacy) I relaxed a little and told parents.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

No recs from me as anything having to do with miscarriage was very triggering for me after my early loss. Just wanted to send positive vibes/prayers to you through this journey.

My first trimester (and whole pregnancy) after my loss was akin to holding my breath as I was SO scared we would lose him. After each milestone I felt a little better, but it wasnt until baby was placed on my chest at birth that I finally cried out in utter relief. Do what you need to do to be as stress free as possible.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

zstbee84 :  Glad you liked it! It’s definitely helped me get through some rough times!

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Bumble bee

zstbee84 :  I’m so sorry to hear that 🙁 Sadly, that’s life after loss. It’s never going to be a joyous, naive pregnancy ever again. It’s a tough reality to grasp sometimes. I still struggle with it, and I just had my 4th loss.

I always tell myself that any future pregnancies will be so, so difficult to get through, but once that baby comes it will feel SO incredibly rewarding and unbelievable and it’ll all be worth it in the end. 

Take care of yourself, and PM me if you ever feel like you need someone to talk to. Loss sucks, and recurrent loss sucks even harder, but you’re not alone ♥

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