Post # 1
I had planned to have my two closest friends as co-MOHs and my SIL and Future Sister-In-Law as bridesmaids. I’ve asked my two closest friends, but after reading about Bees’ horrible experiences with having their SILs and FSILs as bridesmaids, I’ve gotten a little nervous about whether to expand my bridal party.
I like my SIL and Future Sister-In-Law and have good relationships with them, but we are not super-close. Before joining the Bee, my only concerns were that my SIL won’t get to participate in person in any pre-wedding stuff because she and my brother live far away and that my Future Sister-In-Law might feel obligated to include me in her wedding someday. Neither of these things is a big deal. I don’t have any concerns about their behavior, and I like to think that I’m a nice person who will treat her bridesmaids well. But after reading the horror stories on here, even though I think it’s unlikely, I’m worried that the wedding will create conflict between us or something.
So, tell me about your good experiences with having your in-laws or future in-laws in your bridal party. Or convince me that having just my two best friends as my bridesmaids is the better choice.
Post # 3
I am in my future sister-in laws wedding in a couple weeks and we haven’t had any problems at all. We have always gotten along really well, but weren’t extremely close, so I was excited when she asked me to be a part of her bridal party. I plan on asking her to be in mine too!
Post # 4
My best friend was my Maid/Matron of Honor and my only other bridesmaids were my husband’s sisters. It was fantastic and a great bonding experience. They live on the other coast so they weren’t around for a lot of stuff but honestly, I was happy to be doing planning on my own and with my husband.
My SILs were very welcoming when we first met and I genuinely liked them but we weren’t that close because of the distance. But it really didn’t make it any less special. They along with Mother-In-Law threw me a surprise shower when we were back visiting for Christmas. I was so touched, I cried.
Looking back on it, I wouldn’t have had it any other way. I love them (and actually pall of my husbands’s family so I’m pretty lucky) and they love me. And they love that they don’t have to worry about their crazy older brother being his typical crazy man self completely unchecked since I’m there to keep an eye on him.
If you think there won’t be issues, then it’s a nice gesture to include them in your wedding. Don’t let those horror stories get to you!
Post # 5
Thank you both for your replies! It’s encouraging to hear about your experiences, particularly with in-laws with whom you weren’t super-close or who live far from you. I know that the boards can give a skewed perspective, since someone is more likely to rant about their horrible SIL bridesmaid than to post to say that their SIL bridesmaid was great, but it’s still very reassuring to hear that not everyone regrets having their in-laws in their bridal party.
Post # 6
I had my two SIL’s as my bridesmaids and it was great. They weren’t super involved in the planning process but they helped with whatever I asked of them and they were really supportive. One of them actually did my centerpieces which was amazing, they were beautiful! I’m really glad I had them be a part of my wedding. Even if we aren’t super close I feel good that I included them.
Post # 7
I’m having my Future Sister-In-Law as a bridesmaid and so far so good! She is my FI’s only sibling, and is 6 years younger than him, and she’s an awesome girl. She is a student, and doesn’t have a lot of time to be involved in wedding stuff to the same extent that my other BMs have been, but she is really enthusiastic when we talk about the wedding. I just think, this is the lady who will be an aunt to my children, we will always be in each other’s lives, and I want her to be part of the wedding day just like my own sister is.
Post # 8
My Future Sister-In-Law is in our wedding and everything has been easy peasy. But we know each other well and actually hang out on the weekends sometimes. None of my bridesmaids are actually helping with wedding things as we have a planner. But Future Sister-In-Law did come with me dress shopping with all the other bridesmaids and is also going on our out of town trip for my Bachelorette party. I just like including her in everything since we will be family.