- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
Opinions, please. Sorry in advance for the long post.. just need to vent and get girl opinions 🙂
I’ve always had a hard time finding good friends. I had a great friend when I was small, but then switched schools. I still say hello once in a while, but we just weren’t good friends after that. She is a really nice person, but is into drinking, etc. now, so I guess that was kind of a good thing. My high school best friend kissed one of my boyfriends behind my back, and then got jealous of me and another guy and stopped talking to me. I’ve had other good friends since then, but it always ends the same.
Now, here comes the current situation. New “BFF” comes into life from FI’s side. It’s FI’s friend since he was a kid, his gf. Said gf is now 19. I’m 22. In essence, she comes from a really wealthy family & has never had to live a day in the real life.. ever, and is so oblivious to money problems, etc. Nevertheless, she & I clicked really great two years ago when we met. We ended up becoming pretty close, talking on the phone until 2 am about Twilight lol… Long story short, Fiance & I moved & we really lost touch. “BFF” is in college, so every time I tried to call, she was busy & would catch me back at bad times. One of the reasons I think we grew apart is because one night, while in a drunken state, I told her she would probably be a Bridesmaid or Best Man (Idiot I am, I know), and then later on told her I think I am only going to pick family… She didn’t say anything, but she had a look I knew all too well.
See, “BFF” talked frequently about her other “best friends” constantly behind their backs with nasty comments… she even badgered a friend because the friend said she couldn’t afford a gift for her own boyfriend. Ew..
“BFF” never even said congrats when Fiance and I got engaged. Her text was about 10 hrs after my original announcement to her, and said “oooh, how he do it?” Her Boyfriend or Best Friend said congrats on Facebook, but all she did was “like” my status. That kind of hurt. If she was my bff, then wouldn’t she be like thrilled for me??!
After months of not talking, Fiance said he still wants to invite them to the wedding, since he’s been friends with her Boyfriend or Best Friend since he was like 5. So I’m like, okay, I’ll try to reach out to her. Well, after a catty reply on FB, she calls me today to chat. I totally felt like she was being snotty & everything. She didn’t even ask about the engagement, and I could just tell from her responses that I was gonna be talked about… I even talked to her about my dream honeymoon, which I said was Tahiti (huts on water, anyone?) and hers happened to be the same. Now, KNOWING exactly how she is, I’m sure she will say I stole her idea. I’m dead serious that that’s exactly how she is. I’ve seen it in action.
So anyways, am I wrong for just wanting to throw in the towel??? I know there are girls out there that are great friends, but I just can’t seem to find any of them. It does make me sad. I feel like I am a great friend and really make sure that when I have a good friend that they know I appreciate them. I try to be mature, but this girl just exudes nothing but competitiveness and jealousy anymore. I don’t like feeling like that. I don’t need “friends” in my life that are jealous of me and can’t be happy for me. Any opinions?? Do I invite her, knowing that I’ll be the topic of her bad-mouthed conversations afterwards??
Sorry, just upset. Opinions, please!