- 8 years ago
- Wedding: April 2011
So I wasn’t really sure where to put this post, I keep putting things in “the lounge” because I’m afraid of putting something in the wrong spot. This post is wedding related, just not related to my wedding.
My SO has been best friends with a group of four other men since middle school. One of them got engaged last summer. Let’s call him Boxer and his fiance Peru. Boxer and Peru were planning a very traditional extravagent wedding. They were to get married in an expensive catholic church here in the area and have a large reception. All four of the other men were going to be groomsmen, including Mr.Helstrong. They had set the date and given out quite a bit of details, but hadn’t sent Save-The-Date Cards or invitations or anything. GMs had not gotten suits, but had been asked to be in the wedding.
Ms. Peru put a status up on Facebook today saying that she had cancelled all her venues and decided to have a destination wedding. Well… there has been a bit of an uproar. Mr. Helstrong is pretty upset as he was really looking forward to being in the wedding and supporting his best friend. He did voice his frustration and concern, but Ms. Peru said that they are trying to pinch pennies and want to have a destination wedding as it will be a third of the cost as the wedding here in town.
I personally am not close with Ms. Peru or Mr. Boxer but I am a little upset mostly for Mr. Helstrong. I fully believe that couples should have the wedding that they want, as it is their day, but I also think that should think of the feelings of those close to them. This is why I”m not having the destination wedding that I want, because ultimately I want family and friends to be there. I think what bothers me the most is that they keep saying they want us to come, but that isn’t exactly feasible for us, or the other grooms men. None will be able to afford it. I know that the wedding will save them money, but it will cost everyone else more.
I think what bothers me the most is that they told everyone all of the other plans and invited the boys to be in the wedding and now they changed it. I’m not mad or anything, just upset that we won’t be able to be there. They are saying that the wedding will be in a year so we can save up, but at that point I will be engaged and saving for our wedding /honeymoon, therefore won’t be able to go to theirs
I just needed to get all that out. sorry it’s long 🙂